How To Turn Your Fears Into Fuel and Go From Zero to Hero in 5 Steps.

Life is about growing your mind and your lifestyle, if you look for comfort chances are you aren’t going to fulfil your potential. If you are able to let go of your comfort and embrace uncertainty, get high building strength in front of adversity, if you are hungry and willing to learn and be helped and guided, then you will feel the fear of the unknown and yet, live the journey to success with much ease. 

Silence the noise of the world, shut down the naysayers, kick life hard when it knocks you down, be reborn, understand who you are and understand that the chains of life are merely illusions.

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When I decided to go full on with my coaching business I had no idea of what I was going into, admin work, accounts, taxes, bills, organising my money, getting rid of unhealthy habits that could spread like fire, it’s more about inner work and taking ownership of my behaviour than systems and procedures.

Business in the end is a way for us to accomplish our dreams, is a tool to help us achieve our goals and make an impact. 

Our business is connected to our personal brand that’s our personal core. 

Your business reflects who you are but it’s not you. 

To be successful you have to kill ego, you have to let go of the character and be bold to get what you want. 

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Starting a business, scaling an existing one, anything that pushes you out of your comfort zone will push your buttons and bring to the surface actions that you kept buried in the subconscious until you work on them. 

In order to go from zero to great you will have to face your deepest fears and procrastination.

How? 

Meditate. 

Seriously. It’s the best way to embrace who you are. 

And then: 

  • Acknowledge that you are scared, admit it and take ownership of your fears. 
  • Understand that fears aren’t real, they are product of your monkey mind, past beliefs and your choices.
  • Make a choice, seeing them as opportunities to rise or staying where you are dormant to your true potential.
  • Take action, one day at a time, with action you build up confidence and the better your results the more fearless you become. 
  • Every time you feel the fear reframe it, if you aren’t feeling uncomfortable you aren’t growing, feel the excitement, you are about to breakthrough!

YOU are always in control.

YOU can always make a choice. 

YOU can always choose how YOU act.

If YOU feel like you are moving in circles, take a step back and adjust, review the plan, change. 

YOU are the creator. 

Your game, your choices, your rules!

Create! 

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NEVER SETTLE!

Leave your comments below, I’d love to read your thoughts about this topic. 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30 minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

ONLY 5 SPOTS AVAILABLE.  FIRST COME. FIRST SERVED. 

xx

Arya

 

A Start-To-Finish Guide to Behavior Change.

When working with my clients the most common thread is starting a new habit and sticking to it, changing the behaviors they have been carrying for years and being consistent with the new ways of doing. 

After all this years, learning, studying, applying myself and seeing others fail and succeed today I wanted to share in depth how there is a “simple” way of actually succeeding in behavior change.

Personally, I believe it all comes down to, HOW BADLY DO YOU WANT IT? 

If the desire for and the feeling of that reward is bigger than the fear of getting out of your comfort zone chances are you are a winner, if you’d rather stay in the couch and complain then…well…you know the story.

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In this start to finish guide to help you with behavior change I will share 5 simple, effective, steps to conquer once and for all any obstacle your mind is placing in your way.

Again, your beliefs shape your reality, so if you think you will remain stagnant and never conquer, that’s a self fulfilling prophecy because you will feel demotivated and give up. If, on the other hand, you have a deep belief that you can achieve anything then you will indeed, achieve anything you set your mind to. 

There are 5 stages to behavior change. Two researchers named Prochaska and DiClemente developed a way of describing it in what they called the Stages of Change Model. Though originally developed in the context of smoking cessation, it’s five stages actually describe the process by which all behaviors change.

Stage 1) 

Denial and resistance. You might be told that something needs change and yet deny the fact that you need help, why would things be going wrong if you are feeling ok? WRONG! You are comfortable and living in habit that doesn’t mean that you are doing well. If you choose to see every trigger as a messenger and are willing to investigate why you are being triggered then you will move on to the next stage and evolve.

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Stage 2) 

In this stage you know you have to change something and you are contemplating the idea of changing. The key here is to find a deep reason why to change, and it has to be personal and motivating. For some of you going to the gym is a burden, if you shift the preception to training for a longer, happier and better life or being able to run with your kids, or to stop beong jealous of those beach bodies…whatever motivates you is what will kick your ass, not what you are supposed to do but what you deeply feel like you have to do.

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You will find obstacles at this stage – I’ve seen couples, one trying to loose weight and the partner bringing cake post workout – , remember that you come from doing things a certain way and everything around you is used to you being a certain way, the same way is hard for you to change it is as well for your environment because you changing means that they will have to change or, you will organically move on. You will succeed if the reason why you must change is stronger than the obstacles. 

Stage 3) 

Determination. At this stage you are full on preparing, getting ready for action, determined to breakthrough and change your ways. In my case it meant cutting of smoking, drinking, going out and sleepless nights. It wasn’t overnight, I had to be really fed up with my situation and be triggered by a sudden death for me to act. Once you are ready and filled with the belief that you can change then you take action!

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Stage 4) 

Wisdom comes from experience and action is wisdom. One day you wake up and you are consistently going to the gym, the battle is mental this time though, you are going to the gym consistently, start comparing yourself to others, suffer the fight of feeling not good enough, you continue showing up and even though every demon will try to defeat you, there you are, changed!

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Stage 5) 

Consistency and maintaining the behaviors require you to be abstinent and far away from temptation, whatever your temptation is or was. If you were addicted to porn you will have to be away from it and be aware of what triggers you to relapse. 

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Because, yes, you will relapse and relapse isn’t failure as long as you don’t give up. Every time you fall you can learn from it and rise up stronger. The thing is the more determined you become, the higher goals you set, the more challenging the outcomes, the harder the battle, the stronger you become and the less and less relapses you will have. 

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Know yourself, know your strengths, know your weaknesses, know what makes you say F*** it and throw the towel and know what keeps your fire lit! 

Changing your behavior is not a punishment, discipline isn’t suffering, embrace pain as part of growth. Changing is for good and for the better. When I see an athlete sweating his or her ass off, or a boxer fighting for a title, I see greatness, that sweat, pain, blood and tears is what makes the reward so addictive.

When bettering your life it feels painful because old ways must die, the old you must die,  your character, ego driven, must die and that feels painful, it takes balls and it takes courage but what’s on the other side is greatness and that, well, that’s what you were born for 😉 

NEVER SETTLE! 

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If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30 minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

ONLY 5 SPOTS AVAILABLE.  FIRST COME. FIRST SERVED. 

xx

Arya