5 TIPS to ask for what YOU want with Confidence.

Confidence is a skill and like every skill it requires practice, daily practice, learning from mistakes and grit to continue moving forward despite the challenges and falls.

Brian Tracy said: “The future, in sales and in business belongs to those who ask for what they want over and over again.”

I say that the future belongs to those who ask for what they want in every area of their lives and never settle with a no, or less than what they deserve.

Confidence is a habit and like every habit you must practice it daily until it’s part of your routine. 

How can you ask confidently for what you want if you still don’t believe that you deserve it? 

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Success in building up your confidence is simple repetition of things that work over and over until you get the results you desire. 

Confidence builds up every time you implement a new habit and commit to the practice. Once you see that you are capable of following through you can upgrade and level up your goals. 

When helping my clients they learn that it’s more about accountability and pushing pass the pain and resistance that any other strategy, like in fitness and the gym, life is about pushing through what we think is holding us back.

You will stumble, you will fall, you will make mistakes and you will beat yourself up. It’s ok! 

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You win as long as you keep moving forward and learning from every experience. 

So here they go, 5 POWERFUL tips to help you ask for what you want confidently:

1) Know your reason why, ask yourself why am I doing this? That deep reason why will wake you up in the morning and it’s going to help you and propel you to the next level. This reason has to be selfish and it doesn’t have to make sense to anybody else but you. 

2) Get as many nos as possible, the more nos you get the thicker your skin, the better you face rejection and the stronger you become because you get closer to that yes. This one requires you to believe that what you are creating, building, offering is worth the hustle and the pain of facing rejection. 

3) Learn to say no to things that don’t resonate with you. You are not missing anything, your opportunities are for you, you play the game your way, your rules. Nothing that’s meant to be for you will ever get away. 

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4) Face rejection as redirection, learn from it, see what you can improve. What can you do better the next time so it doesn’t happen again? Never take anything personal! 

5) JUST ASK! It doesn’t matter if your voice is shaking, if you are not feeling 100%, it doesn’t matter! Just ask, have the courage to ask for what you want. Kids never give up, they ask, try different ways until they get what they want right? Play your game to win! 

I hope you find them useful and that you start implementing them today. Remember, success is a marathon, a long lifetime adventure!

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30 minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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Arya

How to get out of your way

The 10 best ways to get things done, better and faster!

Have you ever asked yourself if it’s possible to get more things done, better and faster? 

It is possible. 

And you may ask, how?

Prioritising. Making sure that first of all you have a clear vision, goals set in place, targets to achieve and that you are tracking your progress.

If you are just starting to set goals and this task seems daunting, start with creating the habit of daily to do lists, marking those tasks in your calendar and limiting them to 5.

Those 5 things must be aligned with your main goals.

So here the 10 best ways to get things done, better and faster!

1) Know your goals, if you know where you are going it’s “easier” to break the goals down and create small phases, chunks of activities that need to be done by certain time in order to achieve the bigger goal. This can be applied to business and life. Once you know where you want to be, everything else is a time waster. What are you willing to sacrifice to be your best?

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2) Prioritise using your cold blood aka.wisdom, know which tasks are urgent, important, not urgent, urgent but not important, and delegate the ones that aren’t important at all. You have to be 200% focused in what needs to be done. If you can’t delegate/outsource for whatever reason, make sure you do them at the speed of light in the last part of the day.

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3) Know your best hour. Some researchs say that the hours before 12pm are the most productive ones. Use your first hours to meditate, exercise, clear your mind and start the day strong with the most important tasks. As the day goes by, tackle the social activities and other commitments that you might have.

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4) Learn to say no! I can’t stress this one often enough to my clients. Say no! This is your life, you are the director, the creator, say no to BS, to projects and requests that come when you are working on your main tasks, to chit chat that drains your energy, keep your head in the game and stay focused. Anything that is not related to any of your goals is procrastination. If you need help with this one you can always ask me for more tips.

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5) This on is my saviour and now instead of just planning the day before I plan weeks, months and even years in advance. Plan ahead! Have a list of the 5 main tasks that you need to accomplish the next day so that when you go to bed your mind is clear and even though it might take a while to fall sleep (been there) just be disciplined enough to stay in bed because your tasks are set and your body needs rest.

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6) Track your distractions, seriously. Write down every time you look at your phone, stand up for a cup of coffee, change the music, speak to someone or a fly enters the room. Once you are aware of the distractions have the will power to switch everything off and focus in the task at hand.

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7) Outsource as much as you can. There is an app for almost everything right now, the small bits of the day need to be done,  fine, find. someone who can do them or simply declutter and live minimal while you are building. Your choice, your time.

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8) Meditate, this one may sound spiritual, gipsy, too new age or whatever, still, the benefits of meditation have been globally proven and again, there are amazing apps like Headspace that can help you clear your mind. You might think is a joke until you test it, you commit, you do it for 90 days and seeing the results you have to keep going.

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9) Take care of yourself. This one should be number 1. You are the machine, the engine that is moving everything in your life. This was the turning point for me, I want to retire young and sexy, so first is the mind, then the body and then everything else. This is a marathon, not a race, a journey. Live long, live well, eat healthy, sleep your hours, exercise and rest when you have to in order to balance your energies. You MUST be at the top of your to do list! Daily!

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10) Wake up earlier! Ask yourself how many hours are you wasting just chilling in the sofa? How many hours scrolling the Facebook feed? Even if not hours, simply half and hour of wasted time is that, wasted life. I recommend this blocker, works with Chrome, for the Facebook feed when you are working.

Bonus TIP: JUST DO IT! 

I hope you find them useful and that you start implementing them today. Remember, success is a marathon, a long lifetime adventure!

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30 minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

I have opened a program to help you GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY. Bookings open until the 27th of September 2018.

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How to get out of your way

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Arya

How to captivate with your story.

Write it boldly! 

No one is going to give you what you want, you have to go out there and hunt, don’t ever expect others to help you getting what you want and you won’t suffer deception. 

This is a game, the game is set for each of us to learn and grow and evolve. 

Take it as a movie where you are the main character, the director and the script writer.

Start writing and be BOLD, be brave, share your journey in the most compelling, creative, inspiring, motivational and amazing way you can possibly create.

Do it for you and you will WIN!

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You decide, you observe, you learn, you make your moves, you grow, you fall, you rise, you stand strong, you become and you move the pieces across the board. 

You create you opportunities and once the opportunity comes you take it and learn how to make the most of it. 

You can ask for advice but in the end you have to build up enough strength and confidence to know what you want and make it happen on your own. 

You can help others but always remember to help yourself first.

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Also remember that the people you ask advice from are also people, humans like you and if you don’t take your own risks you will never grow. Listen, learn from those who are where you would like to be but be bold enough to try your own way, the worst thing that can happen is that you learn another way that doesn’t work and you build up confidence from getting out of your comfort zone. 

Everybody is going to help you, it all depends on your perception, if you listen and observe you realise that actually every single thing is moving you forward and the only one holding back is yourself. 

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From some you will learn how to be witty, from others how to treat people, from others how not to treat people, from some you will learn how to be more communicative, from others you will learn how to be strong, from some you will learn to be honest with yourself, from others you will learn how to set healthy boundaries, from others how to ask for help, from others how to love, from some you will learn how to let go, from some you will learn how to forgive, from some you will learn how to say what you really want and be crystal clear, from some you will learn how to flirt, from others you will learn about business, money and persuasion. From every single interaction you will learn more and more about yourself. 

In the end, you realise we are all learning along the way, experimenting with what we have and nobody is perfect. 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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Arya

Follow your heart!

Follow your heart, yes, but when to know what’s really your heart and not another game of the mind? 

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Following your heart is tuning in to what makes you feel most alive, no matter what that is, if you could be doing that without being paid, for hours, without thinking when it’s going to end, but wishing that you could be doing that forever, then that’s your purpose. And it doesn’t have to make sense for anyone else but you. 

Your purpose can, may and will change. It’s called growth and evolution!

For me following my heart has taken me to travel around the world, trying to understand why I had so much hunger inside that nothing seemed to fulfill, my mind wandering, and my soul guiding a path that I couldn’t see clear but took the first steps and here I am. In London, writing a blog, growing as a person and becoming the woman I dreamed of. 

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Following my heart has taken me to experience life and open my mind to new dimensions, being courageous enough to walk alone and learning to think by myself. 

Following my heart was messy in the beginning, I didn’t know what would happen but my strong desire to conquer is guiding my steps and I am grateful because the plan is bigger than what we can imagine. 

Why you should follow your heart? 

Because you aren’t born to settle, to limit yourself to the walls your mind is trapped, because there are limitless experiences out there for you to enjoy and it’s all in your hands. 

Because you aren’t born to be mediocre, to fit in, to be normal. 

Why? 

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Because you have life in your lungs and you must fight for that life like it’s the end of the world. 

And it really doesn’t matter, the main point is challenging yourself to make something happen. Little did I know that from the moment that the idea of the festival came to me it would become a reality. 

That’s how it works, you set a goal and find ways to make it a reality. 

It could be doing a course, changing your habits, starting a fitness journey, grabbing a backpack and exploring Asia, telling someone that you like them, quitting a full time job to pursue a passion, starting that side hustle that could bring you more money than you could have ever imagined, moving to a new country…endless possibilities!

My tips: 

  • Write down a list of things you would like to do and start right now to work towards making them come true.
  • Be willing to get out of your confort zone and learn new things. 
  • Erase the “I know this already”, “been there, done that” from your head because every experience is unique.
  • Let this sink in you: fear is an illusion and this game is for you to win and grow into your best self! 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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How to grow from change.

Move to a new city! Seriously 😉

When I moved to London I knew that I wanted to build a company, I had no clue about business and what it really meant but I knew what I wanted to learn and all my intentions where towards that goal.

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Moving to a new country can be scary but I had traveled around the world, mostly solo for almost a year and a half and I have siblings here so that made things a bit easier.

But the challenges are what makes us grow and I had to figure out ways of living here while finding my way, from house sitting to sharing flat with friends and family, sleeping in a mattress on the floor, to working in the food to go section of a health store, to walking 40 minutes to take the train in the snow at 4am to sleep 5 hours and workout and eat rice and beans, all for the dream.

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Some might have had it harder, it doesn’t matter, we all face challenges in this life, we all have our battles to win and our lessons to learn, what matters here is the proof that if you want something and your are stubborn enough to follow that call you will find a way to make it happen no matter the struggle.

Victim mentality is one where you get angry, annoyed and pissed off when things don’t go your way.

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I used to hate this in others and one day I learned that I had been doing the same, nagging, whining, crying and complaining like a mediocre person would do and that’s what great people teach us, you whip your tears and stand up again no matter what happens.

Acknowledging the power within is knowing that even when things don’t go according to your plan there is a bigger plan and everything is going perfectly according to that plan.

Moving to a new country is the best learning experience you can gift to yourself.

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It took me a year to feel like I am living in London and I know I have only seen a small glimpse of what the city can give.

You will only get as far as your beliefs. You want a different reality? Challenge your beliefs and question why you have been doing things the way you are doing them.

Jump! Take risks! Do things your way because if you never try you will never know if it works for you or not.

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If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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How to define love for yourself.

I have read this a few times “love starts within” and I couldn’t grasp what it really meant.

Let’s leave aside the word/concept of love, will write an article with my thoughts on that topic a bit later.

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But what does that statement mean? If you have parts of yourself that need attention and healing you will attract people in your life who will act in ways that will push all your buttons until you decide once and for all to check your inner world.

Self love has to be a discipline, self love is not half ass makeup, get a personal trainer, buy new clothes or change your habits. Self love is facing the “good”* and the “ugly”* and being ok with it. 

*who decides what is good and what is right for you? who decides what is good and what is ugly? 

The only way to see another person truly is by being true to yourself, then you can understand what someone else might be going through. But most important, you start to comprehend why you do the things you do, why some things happen the way they do and you gain your power back, day by day, little by little.

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If we expect someone else to fix us, we are doomed. 

If we expect someone else to complete us, we are insane. 

If we expect someone else to give us the love we want, we are being dishonest. 

If we expect from others what we are not willing to give to ourselves we are settling for less than we deserve and signing a contract with pain. Over and over again. 

Love must start in our core, being selfish with our time and space, with our company.

Love yourself so deeply that you don’t care anymore about what other people might think, you speak your truth, even when it hurts.

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Love yourself so deeply that you embrace both light and dark and allow yourself to experience life in your own terms.

Love yourself so much that you invest in your wellbeing first and foremost, that you explore your depths through meditation and test the external world to conquer your fears.

Love yourself so much that you question your taboos and beliefs daily and make the adjustments you want to get the experiences that you want to live.

Love yourself so much that you go for what you want. Classy but, RUTHLESSLY! 

Love is a concept. And it all starts in how you see yourself!

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You are worthy of love and belonging.

But first of all, do you belong to yourself?

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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Dream BIG

 

They say we must dream big and the thing is when we dream big but not as big as we could, our minds are limited by years of conditioning.

They say: be a dreamer!

The world is full of dreamers! We are all dreaming with something, the difference is those who make their dreams come true and those who remain in the dreaming phase. 

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Dreaming is amazing but you can do that while sleeping. Making things happen and walking the walk is what makes the difference. 

Me? I am never satisfied, I know I can do better and I know I am exactly where I have to be to get where I want.

Dream big, yes, write down a plan, 3, 5, 10 years plan, see your life in the future and imagine how you would like it to be, create a vision board, Pinterest is amazing for this, you can look for whatever you want, be crazy, dream massively, and know that you will always dream small even though you might think you are dreaming big because the more you grow the bigger the dreams get and it’s a lifelong journey.

Dream big yes, break down the dream into smart goals and commit to 2 or 3 so you can celebrate your victories.

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Focus, choose, decide, prioritise and conquer. 

Dream big, multiply it 10 x times and allow the Universe to serve it.

And embrace the fact that every person has a different perception and definition of success and every one is free to choose what suits them better, respect that and let people live their lives while you make your choices.

No need to prove anything to anyone or to convince anyone of your truth! Simply embody it and enjoy the ride! 

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My tips? 

  • I have a vision board on Pinterest where I can add more and more pictures of the experiences that I want to live and check it anytime anywhere.
  • I created a vision board and hang it in my room.
  • I focus on 2 or 3 goals at a time.
  • I design my life focusing in the experiences I want to live more than in how much money I want to make, I decided the lifestyle I want to enjoy and the person I want to become.
  • I work on myself, read self development books and challenge and question my beliefs.
  • I celebrate my victories but I am never satisfied, always awake.
  • I ask myself everyday why do I the things I do. My reason why is selfish. I do this for myself to myself.
  • BE SELFISH! Once you get where you want then share and give hands to others, your journey is your legacy.
  • I may have fallen a thousand times but what makes me successful is that I always find a way up again.

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What are your tips to design a life that makes you happy?

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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