How To Turn Your Fears Into Fuel and Go From Zero to Hero in 5 Steps.

Life is about growing your mind and your lifestyle, if you look for comfort chances are you aren’t going to fulfil your potential. If you are able to let go of your comfort and embrace uncertainty, get high building strength in front of adversity, if you are hungry and willing to learn and be helped and guided, then you will feel the fear of the unknown and yet, live the journey to success with much ease. 

Silence the noise of the world, shut down the naysayers, kick life hard when it knocks you down, be reborn, understand who you are and understand that the chains of life are merely illusions.

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When I decided to go full on with my coaching business I had no idea of what I was going into, admin work, accounts, taxes, bills, organising my money, getting rid of unhealthy habits that could spread like fire, it’s more about inner work and taking ownership of my behaviour than systems and procedures.

Business in the end is a way for us to accomplish our dreams, is a tool to help us achieve our goals and make an impact. 

Our business is connected to our personal brand that’s our personal core. 

Your business reflects who you are but it’s not you. 

To be successful you have to kill ego, you have to let go of the character and be bold to get what you want. 

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Starting a business, scaling an existing one, anything that pushes you out of your comfort zone will push your buttons and bring to the surface actions that you kept buried in the subconscious until you work on them. 

In order to go from zero to great you will have to face your deepest fears and procrastination.

How? 

Meditate. 

Seriously. It’s the best way to embrace who you are. 

And then: 

  • Acknowledge that you are scared, admit it and take ownership of your fears. 
  • Understand that fears aren’t real, they are product of your monkey mind, past beliefs and your choices.
  • Make a choice, seeing them as opportunities to rise or staying where you are dormant to your true potential.
  • Take action, one day at a time, with action you build up confidence and the better your results the more fearless you become. 
  • Every time you feel the fear reframe it, if you aren’t feeling uncomfortable you aren’t growing, feel the excitement, you are about to breakthrough!

YOU are always in control.

YOU can always make a choice. 

YOU can always choose how YOU act.

If YOU feel like you are moving in circles, take a step back and adjust, review the plan, change. 

YOU are the creator. 

Your game, your choices, your rules!

Create! 

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NEVER SETTLE!

Leave your comments below, I’d love to read your thoughts about this topic. 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30 minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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5 Truths No One Will Tell You But You Need To Hear About Living With Courage.

Last year I bought all of Brené Brown‘s books after watching her TedTalk on vulnerability and immersed myself in her world of wisdom. While a lot of the things she writes are incredibly inspiring others seemed to me a bit cheesy and repetitive. A once and enough read in my opinion.

The best thing that I took from her books was that haters will hate but she fights them back saying: “If you’re not in the arena getting your butt kicked too, I’m not interested in your feedback.” I completely agree and I feel the freedom to express my opinion because yes, my ass is getting kicked in the arena.

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Number 1:

Daring greatly seems a bit daunting when you come from a place of living following the rules of the status quo, years of conditioning aren’t erased in a night and it takes a ton of will power and hunger to actually make bigger changes, faster, for the long term.

Number 2:

Living with courage is scarry and risky, you will fall, you will get hurt, you will cry, you will rise and you will fly. Why? Because to find your courage you have to dig deeper, deal with your issues, let go of the past and become who you decide to be. You always have tools at hand though if you are willing to pursue the journey of a lifetime! Courage opens the doors to opportunity!

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Number 3: 

You will have to shred people like dead skin, leave friends and family if needed behind, your identity, your belongings, whatever it is that can hold you back and stop you from your growth. You will have to let go of the attachment of what once was and what you thought could be to truly pursue what you desire.

Number 4: 

What happens when you don’t know what you want? you may ask. Well, then you find the courage to keep trying things and learning from every experience until something clicks and you choose to go all in, until then, try every single thing that calls your attention and be brave to not give af* about what could happen if something goes wrong, adventures start with a relentless fire and are written along the way!

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Number 5: 

Every single scar will have a story, one day everything will make sense and it will be ok. Everything in your life has been placed there for you to grow, it’s up to you to take on the challenge of the epic story of the life you can create. On the other side of all the pain, sweat, blood and tears will emerge your true self, strong, wild and fierce! IF YOU DARE!

NEVER SETTLE!

Leave your comments below, I’d love to read your thoughts about this topic. 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30 minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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How To Hustle Effectively and not Die Trying in 5 steps.

Ooops, let me rephrase that 😉 You have to be willing to die for your dreams otherwise you aren’t hustling. 

I hear everybody saying “hustling in the city”, well, hustlers don’t party when they have goals to conquer, hustlers only sleep if they are training like a beast in the gym, hustlers dream big and hustlers don’t settle.

Would you like to hustle in an effective way?

Find your North Star!

And self discipline to hustle will come easy 😉

Yes, find that thing that makes you tick, whatever it is, and once you find it go all in!

Step 1)

Hustlers change the world we live in and you can too. Once you understand that, like Steve Jobs said: “everything around you was created by people who aren’t smarter than you, once you comprehend that you can too shape your reality, your life will change.”

How can you, yes, YOU, change your world?

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Step 2)

Hustlers embrace rejection, feed from haters and fuel their determination from every setback, naysayer and failures. 

How can you use the negative and embrace the positive to win?

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Step 3) 

Hustlers find a way, always, if there isn’t a way they will create one or change the course, never the end goal.

How can you stay focused on your end goal no matter what happens?

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Step 4) 

Hustlers build up their grit. Your grit is the strentgh that you build up with every extra rep, every extra hour of work you put in, every time you break the mental limit, the plateau.

How can you overcome your limitations and surprise yourself?

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Step 5) 

Challenge the status quo. Hustlers we hate the status quo, yes, we live by our own rules and we shift reality with our creations. You don’t need to be Elon Musk to be a challenger, you just need to be fierce in your field and love your craft enough to go all in or nothing for whatever lights your soul on fire!

What’s your craft and how can you challenge the status quo with it? 

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NEVER SETTLE! 

Leave your comments below, I’d love to read your thoughts about this topic. 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30 minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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Arya

 

A Start-To-Finish Guide to Behavior Change.

When working with my clients the most common thread is starting a new habit and sticking to it, changing the behaviors they have been carrying for years and being consistent with the new ways of doing. 

After all this years, learning, studying, applying myself and seeing others fail and succeed today I wanted to share in depth how there is a “simple” way of actually succeeding in behavior change.

Personally, I believe it all comes down to, HOW BADLY DO YOU WANT IT? 

If the desire for and the feeling of that reward is bigger than the fear of getting out of your comfort zone chances are you are a winner, if you’d rather stay in the couch and complain then…well…you know the story.

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In this start to finish guide to help you with behavior change I will share 5 simple, effective, steps to conquer once and for all any obstacle your mind is placing in your way.

Again, your beliefs shape your reality, so if you think you will remain stagnant and never conquer, that’s a self fulfilling prophecy because you will feel demotivated and give up. If, on the other hand, you have a deep belief that you can achieve anything then you will indeed, achieve anything you set your mind to. 

There are 5 stages to behavior change. Two researchers named Prochaska and DiClemente developed a way of describing it in what they called the Stages of Change Model. Though originally developed in the context of smoking cessation, it’s five stages actually describe the process by which all behaviors change.

Stage 1) 

Denial and resistance. You might be told that something needs change and yet deny the fact that you need help, why would things be going wrong if you are feeling ok? WRONG! You are comfortable and living in habit that doesn’t mean that you are doing well. If you choose to see every trigger as a messenger and are willing to investigate why you are being triggered then you will move on to the next stage and evolve.

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Stage 2) 

In this stage you know you have to change something and you are contemplating the idea of changing. The key here is to find a deep reason why to change, and it has to be personal and motivating. For some of you going to the gym is a burden, if you shift the preception to training for a longer, happier and better life or being able to run with your kids, or to stop beong jealous of those beach bodies…whatever motivates you is what will kick your ass, not what you are supposed to do but what you deeply feel like you have to do.

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You will find obstacles at this stage – I’ve seen couples, one trying to loose weight and the partner bringing cake post workout – , remember that you come from doing things a certain way and everything around you is used to you being a certain way, the same way is hard for you to change it is as well for your environment because you changing means that they will have to change or, you will organically move on. You will succeed if the reason why you must change is stronger than the obstacles. 

Stage 3) 

Determination. At this stage you are full on preparing, getting ready for action, determined to breakthrough and change your ways. In my case it meant cutting of smoking, drinking, going out and sleepless nights. It wasn’t overnight, I had to be really fed up with my situation and be triggered by a sudden death for me to act. Once you are ready and filled with the belief that you can change then you take action!

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Stage 4) 

Wisdom comes from experience and action is wisdom. One day you wake up and you are consistently going to the gym, the battle is mental this time though, you are going to the gym consistently, start comparing yourself to others, suffer the fight of feeling not good enough, you continue showing up and even though every demon will try to defeat you, there you are, changed!

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Stage 5) 

Consistency and maintaining the behaviors require you to be abstinent and far away from temptation, whatever your temptation is or was. If you were addicted to porn you will have to be away from it and be aware of what triggers you to relapse. 

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Because, yes, you will relapse and relapse isn’t failure as long as you don’t give up. Every time you fall you can learn from it and rise up stronger. The thing is the more determined you become, the higher goals you set, the more challenging the outcomes, the harder the battle, the stronger you become and the less and less relapses you will have. 

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Know yourself, know your strengths, know your weaknesses, know what makes you say F*** it and throw the towel and know what keeps your fire lit! 

Changing your behavior is not a punishment, discipline isn’t suffering, embrace pain as part of growth. Changing is for good and for the better. When I see an athlete sweating his or her ass off, or a boxer fighting for a title, I see greatness, that sweat, pain, blood and tears is what makes the reward so addictive.

When bettering your life it feels painful because old ways must die, the old you must die,  your character, ego driven, must die and that feels painful, it takes balls and it takes courage but what’s on the other side is greatness and that, well, that’s what you were born for 😉 

NEVER SETTLE! 

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If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30 minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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7 great exercises to help YOU increase Your mental toughness.

Mental toughness…I love this topic! Some of you may ask, why do I want to be mentally tough, that’s something for athletes or high achieving individuals, CEOs or prime ministers? Well, let me tell you something, mental toughness should be a mandatory thing to learn and grow and it should be taught in school.

You must develop it if you want to reach your fullest potential.

When people complain about not having time to workout while eating a triple Mc’n Cheese let me tell you something, is not that they don’t have time is that they are mentally lazy to admit that they could do better and they just hide behind the excuse of not having time.

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Everything in this life is habit and beliefs, and like everything in this life you can change and improve it.

Mental toughness builds up inner strength, self confidence and self awareness. It takes guts and it takes you to look inside and acknowledge the excuses, stop blaming the external and whatever trauma you went through and it builds up with every hard thing you are able to commit to and follow through.

Mental toughness is waking up earlier to train because you are done with having a % or body fat that’s unhealthy, mental toughness is sitting down still and meditating every single day, mental toughness it’s instead of complaining about anything finding a solution to it, mental toughness is making choices that will sky rocket your life. 

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And you can be a waiter, a CEO, an athlete, an entrepreneur, an artist, a model, a hostess, a writer, a freelancer, you can have any work in this world and benefit from mental toughness.

Mentally tough people don’t snap, don’t allow toxic behaviours or people in their lives, mentally tough people make decisions for themselves and assess their own flaws, mentally tough people seek respect not attention and mentally tough people WIN! 

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How do you get mentally tough in a world where instant pleasure is served daily and we are surrounded by distractions continuously? 

You can build up the strength by doing exercises like the 7 I will be sharing with you.

Start today, do them during 4 weeks and once they become a habit stick to them and level up the effort and challenge yourself, continue GROWING!

  1. Shut down the noise: whatever it’s happening outside of you doesn’t matter. Deliver to the best of your ability when under pressure or when something happens that could unbalance your emotions.
  2. Master your self talk: maintain a powerful mindset, know that what matters is how you respond not what actually happens in your life. You are in control of your own motivation.
  3. Embrace change: the more you flow with the constant of change, the more adaptable you are the better you will take things. Remember, is not about you! Is for you!
  4. Stay focused: when you have a long term goal you will face inevitable challenges, tests and setbacks. Keep your focus on the big picture and remember why you started!
  5. Self serving: do it for your own happiness, do it to please your own personal hunger, do it for you!
  6. Stay positive: keep your circle small, don’t listen to naysayers, use the haters to fuel you and keep going!
  7. NEVER EVER GIVE UP!  Continue moving forward no matter what! That’s KEY! 

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If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30 minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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The ultimate 5 TIPS to help YOU stick to a new habit.

For me the key to success is in achieving goals, daily, weekly, monthly and yearly that summed up will make your life the success you dream of. 

Although the definition of success is very broad and personal and here are some of the most succesful people in the world and their own personal definitions of success.

The one that stands out for me is the definition of Stephen Covey, author of “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People“, a must read if you want to have more resources to speed up your growth:

“If you carefully consider what you want to be said of you in the funeral experience,” he writes in the book, “you will find your definition of success.”

Starting a new habit is hard, being honest with yourself that you must change something in your life is hard, admitting it and taking action towards implementing change is hard. Or that’s what you tend to believe.

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Change is hard or so you believe and some of the reasons why you don’t stick to a new habit for long are: 

  • You aren’t motivated enough. 
  • You talk yourself out of it because you don’t really believe you can do it. 
  • You are not consistent enough and after starting you miss a few days and get back to being where you started. 
  • You listen to others who aren’t where you want to be but they are your friends or family and they must want you good so why give you a bad advice, right? WRONG!
  • You start too many new habits at a time and don’t follow through.  

The list could go on and on because the list of excuses we make when we don’t want to face the truth is endless. 

Here is another truth for you, starting a new habit can be easy, sticking to it as well, and it’s all up to your mindset and developing a consistent routine that will help you achieve those goals faster. 

My first tip that will help you stick to that new habit you want to implement in your life to better it is: start with 1 or 2 habits at a time. Let’s say you want to start meditation and eating healthy, good, introduce both practices in your daily to do list as a must do.

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The second tip will be just START and start with small steps, going from eating junk daily to eating whole foods takes a lot of will power so start with a meal a day, few poses of yoga, 30 minutes of exercise or meditating 10 minutes a day during 4 weeks. After those 4 weeks level up and do 20 minutes of meditation or 2 healthy meals a day, 45 minutes of training etc You get the point.

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Third tip? Observe your thought patterns. Watch how your mind talks you out of your new habit. This can happen even to an experienced meditation master, to an athlete, to a successful person, we will be tested, your mind will play all kinds of tricks to keep you in the comfort zone, even if that comfort zone is a place where you are unhappy somehow is better than the unknown. Be self aware and continue moving forward, you are always in control of your choices. 

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My fourth tip to help you start a new habit and actually sticking to it is, never ever miss 2 days, never cheat two meals in a row. With this one as always I use my passion for fitness to set the example, let’s say you have started a new diet plan because you have a specific and challenging goal in mind, you are pushing your limits and moving past the plateau you found yourself at (you can apply this to anything in life because whenever you reach a limit in any area of your life that means you are in a plateau, mentally, physically, financially, emotionally or spiritually). So, if you slip one day or cheated one meal, make sure the day after you catch up full on, no excuses, you train harder, control your food intake and make sure you remember what happens if you miss one day. Your mind gets stronger with time and so do your habits. 

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My fifth tip? Be accountable, tell your closest friends what you want to achieve, have people around you who will be super honest with you, it’s better to listen to the hard truth than living in a delusion. Be accountable and consistent and you will see results! 

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If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30 minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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Arya

5 steps that help YOU achieve YOUR goals faster.

This life is time and the more you wake up the more you see the limitless posibilities of it.

Successful people know how to say yes to what helps them achieve their goals and how to cut off the BS and anything that may stop them from bettering their life.

How can I achieve my goals faster?

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Well, first of all make sure you have clear goals and then use this 5 simple steps, you can apply them to anything that you do in life:

1. Focus on 2 or 3 goals at a time. When you see the big picture, break down the bigger goals in smaller phases and stick to them until successful. How do you know you have achieved a goal? Here comes the second step.

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2. Set targets, set deadlines and measure your results. The same way you measure yourself when training in the gym measure your results in any other aspect of your life. Put some pressure, challenge your limits! It’s all your mindset! Are you a winner or a cry baby? Simple question!

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3. Understand that patience will cost you the game and you have to learn to balance the drive to succeed with the patience of the marathon that is the succesful life you are creating.

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4. Ask for help, there are people who have been where you want to be that can help you reach your goals faster. The master appears when the student is ready and once it does it’s responsibility of the student to dive deep in whatever the subject of study is.

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5. Consistency and discipline. Even when you feel like there is no progress the simple fact of showing up and doing the same things over and over, over time prove that you are comitted and results will show.

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If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30 minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

I have opened a program to help you GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY. Bookings open until today 27th of September 2018.

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