A few days ago I was at an event and someone mentioned that my profile picture on LinkedIn was in a rape field. Straight away my mind took the word rape and even though I didn’t understood what he mean neither did I knew the meaning of the word in this specific context, I continued the conversation avoiding the lightbulb that had popped in my head.
The other person, we were 3 people chatting, said: you know the rules of effective communication?
And she told us a story, the story of a boy that’s traveling with her mum and driving by a field he screams: look, mum, rape!
The mum freaks out and starts looking in her mind for the most appropriate way of explaining the meaning of rape to a kid.
She smiles and starts explaining with care when the boy with a front in his face says: yeah mum but what’s the name of those yellow bright flowers in the field?
Moral of the story? When you don’t understand something ask: what do you mean by…? Whatever that is.
In this case the word rape has so much heaviness around it that automatically out of some kind of fear I didn’t ask what did he meant by it.
Massive lesson: it’s better to sound silly by asking a question than being left in doubt. And the truth is that if you want to learn you must be willing to fail. There are no small questions, only the ones you don’t ask.
Like in the gym, the only bad workout is the one you didn’t do 😉
Apart from asking questions there are few other things that cloud our mind, block our ability to communicate and our potential of growth.
These are in my opinion my top tips, feel free to leave yours in the comments below! I’d love to read your POV.
5 simple rules for good communication:
- Ask questions when you don’t know something. It’s better than being left with a doubt.
- Stop gossiping. Know that who you gossip with will gossip about you as well.
- Listen with all your senses. Be present, opportunities sometimes knock very softly.
- Be honest and authentic in your mindset.
- Choose peace over being right. Respect and love yourself enough to smile and walk away 😉
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