Being A Star In Your Industry Is A Matter Of 5 SIMPLE RULES FOR EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION.

A few days ago I was at an event and someone mentioned that my profile picture on LinkedIn was in a rape field. Straight away my mind took the word rape and even though I didn’t understood what he mean neither did I knew the meaning of the word in this specific context, I continued the conversation avoiding the lightbulb that had popped in my head. 

The other person, we were 3 people chatting, said: you know the rules of effective communication? 

And she told us a story, the story of a boy that’s traveling with her mum and driving by a field he screams: look, mum, rape! 

The mum freaks out and starts looking in her mind for the most appropriate way of explaining the meaning of rape to a kid. 

She smiles and starts explaining with care when the boy with a front in his face says: yeah mum but what’s the name of those yellow bright flowers in the field? 

Moral of the story? When you don’t understand something ask: what do you mean by…? Whatever that is. 

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In this case the word rape has so much heaviness around it that automatically out of some kind of fear I didn’t ask what did he meant by it. 

Massive lesson: it’s better to sound silly by asking a question than being left in doubt. And the truth is that if you want to learn you must be willing to fail. There are no small questions, only the ones you don’t ask. 

Like in the gym, the only bad workout is the one you didn’t do 😉 

Apart from asking questions there are few other things that cloud our mind, block our ability to communicate and our potential of growth.

These are in my opinion my top tips, feel free to leave yours in the comments below! I’d love to read your POV.

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5 simple rules for good communication:

  1. Ask questions when you don’t know something. It’s better than being left with a doubt. 
  2. Stop gossiping. Know that who you gossip with will gossip about you as well. 
  3. Listen with all your senses. Be present, opportunities sometimes knock very softly. 
  4. Be honest and authentic in your mindset. 
  5. Choose peace over being right. Respect and love yourself enough to smile and walk away 😉 

NEVER SETTLE!

Leave your comments below, I’d love to read your thoughts about this topic. 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30 minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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Arya

How your beliefs shape your reality.

The other night I was at an event and someone said something about karma…ok, here is the thing, who knows that karma is true and why is it true?

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This could sound crazy, there are universal laws, I agree with that, you get what you give but, who was the first person to bring in the word and concept of karma?

I could go back again into history and yes, the Vedic scriptures, with all my respect, whatever.

Simply because it has been written and passed onto generations doesn’t mean it’s truth.

It’s another concept, another belief. And the more we believe in it the more real it becomes and the more it affects our lives.

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You know what I believe? That we create our reality, we create our reality from the inside out, we create our reality in our minds and see the physical world bring us a projection of what we imagined. 

Luckily for us, this manifestations aren’t instantaneous, otherwise can you imagine the mess?

Why do you think some people get richer and richer and others get poorer and poorer? Because the information they are consuming is completely different, they are wired differently, not because they are better, simply because they see life from a different perspective. From the perception of infinite possibilities instead of a limited amount of chances. 

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The good thing is that if you are willing to make a difference you can tune into this knowledge, hardwire your brain with what you need to succeed and transform your live completely.

Buddha said: what you think you become! And that it’s truth because I am testing it, through self development and challenging myself to get out of my confort zone, if I look back I see where I decided to make a breakthrough and here I am, writing, just the way I imagined that it would happen one day.

So what are your beliefs?

What do you want to achieve?

What’s holding you back?

And stop blaming others, there are no others, it’s only you and what you think you can’t do that’s holding you back.

Self education is basic for your growth, stretch your mind, expand your vision, evolve and see how the world changes around you.

Your thoughts create beliefs, beliefs shape your actions and your actions decide your destiny. 

Think right, think your own thoughts, decide what you want and become the powerful creator you already are.

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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xx

Arya

10 self love tips

Self love can’t live in us half way, self love is loving ourselves fully and it takes the courage of diving deep and owning the lies we are telling ourselves.

Self love can’t be faked, you must love every wrinkle and tummy rolls, small boobs or whatever that it is you are trying to hide or you are not loving in yourself.

Fake self love is when you allow the exterior to determine your value, when if you don’t receive flattering comments or you get rejected then you crumble and crush because your confidence is tied to external validation.

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The beauty industry, fashion and fitness is built around this. Women like to be adored, we are born to be worshiped but for that to happen we must, and I say again MUST, worship ourselves before.

Facing the mirror, naked, without makeup, without posing, without facing your best angle, raw, as you are and working every day to love every inch of that body, that’s what we women must be doing daily until the full acceptance of our temple shines through and from every pore of our skin.

I love makeup, I love dressing up, I love fancy clothes and feeling like a Queen but true beauty comes from the knowing of our flaws and being ok with them.

I agree with cosmetic surgery, high heels and sexy clothes. All of it is part of the fun of being a woman and I enjoy it. But it can’t be a fix for something that it’s lacking inside.

This is my project this month of March and let me tell you, it’s hard, but I know that if I do the work and build up the discipline of facing the parts I like less something will grow from the inside out.

There is power in waking up and looking to yourself in the eye, admitting that you might not look your best but the fire in your eyes is something to admire because, hey girl! You made it till here! Overcoming obstacles, inner demons, fears and life challenges that at some point seemed impossible to climb. 

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Be proud! Honor yourself! Don’t run! Don’t hide! Don’t punish yourself for not being were you would like to be and work on yourself because this is a journey to become who you are! 

My 10 self love tips?

  • knowing my body type, finding someone who inspires me to reach my fitness goals and keep pushing in the gym.
  • learning about eating habits.
  • facing my reflection in the mirror because I am more than my body.
  • never settling for less than what I want, setting goals and committing to make things happen.
  • detoxing myself from habits, people, places, situations, that lower my vibration.
  • meditation.
  • drinking loads of water.
  • going for what I want.
  • understanding that life is a journey and rushing it won’t get me anywhere sooner, patience.
  • there are no mistakes, I always win because every experience is moving me forward to the next better experience for my growth and providing me with clarity and more tools to keep rising, inner strength.

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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How to prevent “burn-out”.

We live in a fast paced world, filling our days with to do lists and sleeping 5 to 6 hours because when you are chasing your dreams you know that time matters and time flies.

But let me tell you something, these last couple of days maybe because of the hour change or maybe because I am sleeping 5 hours per day while working out, a full time job and my own projects…I got confused, made mistakes in my social media updates, basically thought it was Tuesday when it was Wednesday and felt I was floating and getting sick.

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So today I decided to sleep until my body said enough is enough. Life will continue spinning round, the world will still be out there and my results will be positively rewarded if I am in a better state of mind than if I am pushing beyond my limits every single second of the day.

Go for what you want ruthlessly, chase those dreams and make things happen, breakthrough your mental barriers and challenge yourself to get out of the box because there is no box!

To do that you have to be in peak performance level and it’s all in the mind, if your mind is right everything else follows.

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Make sure you are taking care of your inner world and the outside world will be easier to conquer.

So at least once a week allow your body to rest and recover fully, to enjoy the pleasure of a cozy bed and the sun rays shining through the window while you refuse to leave the blankets because they feel sooooo dammm good over your skin.

And you will see how you kill it in the gym after, how your work results show a more clear and present you, how your confidence boosts and life feels more like the adventure it actually is than the never-ending must have, must do that it can become if we loose our connection.

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My tips are:

  • opening the window as soon as I wake up to let the fresh air in
  • do my bed
  • drink a full glass of water
  • shower
  • meditation
  • gym or yoga (shower again lol)
  • breakfast
  • set 3 intentions for the day

After this the day starts with social media posts, mail updates, follow ups and engaging with the people around me but first things first and before anything else I must love myself to the core.

Life is about choices, being healthy is a choice, not drinking alcohol is a choice, not smoking is a choice, eating vegan is a choice, having healthy boundaries is a choice, treating your body as a temple is a choice, keeping your space and mind clean is a choice, taking care of your body and sexuality is a choice, being you is a choice.

What are you choosing today?

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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How to improve your mindset.

When you think about your life do you act or do you react?

When things don’t go your way do you see opportunity for growth or feel like everything is against you?

When everything goes right do you feel lucky or you know that it was you who attracted all the good things in your life?

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What if I told you that you are exactly where you are meant to be, there is absolutely nothing that you could have done in the past to change your present.

All of it, the good and the bad, every single detail was meant to grow you into the amazing being you are becoming today and where you are heading is all in your hands.

When we leave our lives in the hands of external forces we are leaving our power in the hands of others.

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When we connect with our higher selves and leave the Universe to guide our path then synchronicity takes over and people, books and signs appear non stop.

But, did you know that the signs are there all day every day, inside you? That voice deep down longing for you to listen, that voice calling you to dance, to write, to move to another country, to tell that person you like them, that voice telling you to take leaps of faith, that voice asking you to follow your heart. That’s who you truly are.

Your inner voice will only take you to your highest evolution, there is no fear, only fun experiences and the flow of a life that is being created from your inside and projected to the outside world.

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How to connect?

Meditate. Meditate and face all those fears, face your past, embrace the pain, face the feelings you are pushing away, face the shame, the guilt and the regret. You are not there anymore, you aren’t guilty, you are meant to suffer in the now for something that it’s not even real anymore. Cry, wash your tears and grow up! 

Meditate, find your way of breathing, sit how you feel more comfortable, face the ugliest parts of you and question every single thing, why you feel the way you feel, why you are closed in a box, all the taboos, why you are limiting your being from fulfilling the dreams one day you thought to be possible.

Devote 20 minutes of your day, wake up earlier if you need to, or before bed. Those 20 minutes are for you to clear the space in your head, to break for once and for all the walls that are holding you back.

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Take a month to start, be patient, it takes time, is a discipline, it will get better and better, you will have to learn to make the difference between what’s the ego and what’s your inner pilot light. Don’t be hard on yourself, cry, scream, break something if you need to. You should be angry for holding yourself back but be compassionate, embrace and forgive yourself. And day by day you will see the blooming of your true self bursting from every pore of your skin and touching the souls of others.

Take action, make a plan and make things happen!

And please, before going out there trying to save the world. Save yourself! That’s the real way to help! 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

ONLY 5 SPOTS AVAILABLE.  FIRST COME. FIRST SERVED. 

xx

Arya