How to cut the BS and start winning.

When packaging my gift and tools for my students, brainstorming the needs and desires and how to satisfy them while providing a challenging enough system that transforms their lives I realised after going through my notes that: 

  • We are never ready. 
  • We aren’t aware of our excuses. 
  • We don’t like change.
  • We think that our thoughts are real. And they become real. 
  • We are too influenced by others.
  • We are too scared by the fears of others.
  • We allow somebody else’s beliefs and limitations to determine our results. 
  • We give your power back every time we don’t speak up for something that bothers us.
  • We are too nice.

Adele gif no time for that

And I say we because I take ownership of my own personal journey. 

We live for the experience, the emotion, the outcome, the shortcut, the speed process, the fast track, the instant gratification, the 90 days “solve my life” programs, we live for the right here right now and when brainstorming with my team to develop this programmes we discovered that exactly that was the reason why the process I use in my programmes were working. 

They go straight to the point, to the core, to the needs, they are focused on the journey, the results, the tools are the guides, I am there to support and the students are the creators.

You know something? 

Here is one big unshakable truth for you: WE ARE ALL DYING! OK? 

So, after you swallow that, go back to the first paragraph and laugh at all the BS you have been taking up until now. The main one, coming from your own head. 

My clients want to be in control of their lives, they want to feel a sense of purpose, they want to have businesses, they want confidence, they want discipline, they want their projects to be completed, they want to leave a legacy, they want their purpose and they want, most of all to be happy. 

And you know? 

success quote Winston Churchill

Another truth for you. If you want to make your dreams come true you have to make money, how much is up to you. The beliefs that you carry about money are the only thing stepping in your way. Your mind. Your mindset is the only thing stepping in your way. 

Dream BIG!

The programmes I have created are personal, premium and exclusive. Each of them has specific features that will evolve depending on your own personal needs. Because it all depends on YOU. 

Your life. Your rules. And I will be there to support you and guide you along the way. 

You have to start somewhere so let me share with you 3 exercises that you can start doing right away that will help you improve your mindset: 

  1. Recognise that not everything that you believe to be true is true and that your fears are simply thoughts that hold you back.  
  2. Take ownership of your failures =opportunities for improvement and stop blaming others for your situation. 
  3. Ask yourself if it’s worth it to continue overthinking the ‘what ifs’ instead of simply taking steps towards your goals. 

Remember, the clock is ticking! 

 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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How to develop a thick skin.

And when I mean thick I mean, learn to cope with the nos, learn to cope with rejection, become so strong in your truth that you learn to let go of anything that doesn’t serve your purpose.

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Rejection is redirection, anytime you get a no it takes you closer to that yes that will shift your direction and continue propeling you towards achieving your goals. 

When I hear people say, it’s hard, it’s complicated, it’s a struggle…seriously? If it was easy everyone would do it and that’s why you must push hard.

To develop a thick skin means as well to learn to listen, not everybody that is nice with you wants you well and not everybody that’s ignoring you wants you bad. Discern, listen and decide what you take, what you allow and what you delete.

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Sometimes it will be subtle, just a few words mid conversation that tell you everything about the person in front of you, sometimes it will be so subtle like a facial expression, or you won’t even notice and it won’t show but you can sense it. Tune into that, your gut knows better.

Remember, this is your game, you are in control, you decide what, who, where, when and why. The rest is simply background noise, shut it down, focus, keep the tunnel vision towards your goals, remember that the road can be long and smooth or short and sweet, the speed is perfectly timed and yours is individual to you. This is your game, take what serves you and shred what doesn’t.

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Thick skin is also being aware when you want to please somebody else, being aware of the reasons why you want to please somebody else than you, being mindful of the consequences and choosing to put yourself first.

People pleasing and success only go hand in hand if you are selling ice cream. If you are battling for greatness prepare for war because they will come from all the angles, keep your centre and remember, you are winning in the end! 

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And the hardest will be in your mind, with all those beliefs that you think to be truth, with all the limitations that you think to be truth, with all the fears that you take as truth, with all the memories that keep you small and with all the habits that keep you stuck.

Let go!

Develop a thick skin by going out there and learning to ask for feedback, learn to take criticism and comprehend that both days you are winning, wether they praise you or they judge you.

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Who cares? Keep moving forward! 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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“What you think, you become.”

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve,” Napoleon Hill once said. “The mind is everything. What you think, you become,” Buddha taught. You’ve heard high-minded quotes like these all your life.

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The truth is that there is something to the power of the mind and whatever it is that you ask is what you get. If you have the courage to believe that change is possible then change happens.

My passion for the unlimited potential of the human mind is what brings me to search for the blueprint of highly successful people, and obviously successful depending on your view of success.

For me success is financial freedom, is the power of choice, of being able to decide what you want to do any time without having to worry, that’s my view of success.

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Reading about the millionaire minds one day I realised that nowadays anyone can be a millionaire, being a billionaire requires another type of thinking and with the internet we have access to the secrets and ways that separate the highly successful from average.

Whatever it is that you think about Trump, to me he is an example of doing business. In the end, life is a massive business and he is the president if the biggest corporation in the world. We can always learn something, right?

Yesterday, looking for his book “Trump, think like a billionaire” found out reading the reviews that his POV comes down to one thing: we live in an abundant world and we are born to be rich. Full stop.

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Lack and scarcity are a product of the mind, the reality is that your perception of life decides the reality you live in. Money is the tool to achieve our dreams and without it you can’t do s***!

I am sharing the 10 ways Trump thinks like a billionaire that now are in my desktop and part of my habitual reads (source Bold and determined):

10 Ways to Think Like a Billionaire

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1. “Don’t take vacations. What’s the point? If you’re not enjoying work, you’re in the wrong job.”

2. “Have a short attention span…. you can get more done faster that way.”

3. “Don’t sleep any more than you have to. I usually sleep about 4 hours a night.”

4. “Don’t depend on technology… I don’t even have an ATM card; I’ve never used one in my life.”

5. “Think of yourself as a one-man army… and live to the hilt.”

6. “It’s often to your advantage to be underestimated.

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7. “Success breeds success. The best way to impress people is through results.”

8. “Friends are good, but family is better.”

9. “Treat each decision like a lover… the day I realised it’s sometimes smart to be shallow was, for me, a deep experience.”

10. “Be curious… hungry to understand your immediate world. Otherwise you’ll lack the perspective to see beyond yourself.”

Obviously, this is someone’s else experience and opinion and it’s your decision what to take and what to refuse, although the truth is that if there is a blueprint that works f*** emotions and be bold! 

After all, is your choice to do the best with the time you have been given, if you have to dream anyway, you might as well dream BIG! 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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How to build mental strength.

And this is why I am passionate about fitness. It builds a mental strength like no other.

When you are tired you must keep pushing, even if you go slower just that keep going instead of quitting means winning.

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There are loads of reasons why I could recommend fitness and weight lifting. One of them is the mental toughness that you develop while working out. 

Focus, strength, resilience, endurance, determination and I could go on. 

The other day I learnt something, I was working out and got a text message with “bad” news. This is the scenario, I am sweating like crazy, my headphones’ battery had died, so the inner coach had to be full on nor to get lost in thought. 

When you set a goal, let’s say you tell to yourself, I am doing 40 crunches in the roman chair, ok? You just do them, you train your mind to go until the number 40 and the thing is and here is the lesson.

I told myself, I am doing 20 and then at 12 something inside me saying, nah, you can do 12 only and then my body stops. 

Without the music the workout is different, to help me focus I bring my attention to the muscles and how they are working. Realising that the only way I could break a pattern was by actually doing what I said I was going to do hit me. 

This thought came to me: When you are tired keep pushing, even if you go slower just that keep going instead of quitting it’s winning.

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It was the last round, the circuit is hardcore, it’s a core blast without rest of a 20 second plank, 20 mountain climbers with side twist for each leg, and then the killer, 20 tapping shoulder plank with two plank jumping jacks and to finish a plank to pike jump, the last one is 3 exercises in 1.

This one is to sweat it out like it’s raining, the heart rates goes high, you have to keep focus on the form and the core tight, it takes practice and it’s about the endurance more than the speed. 

The last few days when I felt the burn I rested for a couple of seconds and continued and here is the thing, those seconds seem nothing serious, right? WRONG! The moment I do that I am creating a habit, the habit of quitting or giving up as soon as I feel real pain and the avoidance of pain is comfort zone, it can spread to anything you do in life. 

As soon as I realised this the clarity and focus was incredible, it was maybe survival mode, activation of all my senses, the realisation that that text message had made me realise my strength and how much the gym is helping my growth and business. 

In the end, life is a big business and we are the CEOs! It’s called res-pon-si-bi-li-ty and control over our life experience. 

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Set a goal, set the intention of doing it no matter what, even if you have to do it slower, keep going, keep pushing, control the form, believe you can do it because you have done it before, and when you finish the set you will be proud of yourself because you gave your all and did the best you could. 

We live in a world that is moved by instant gratification, long term visions require endurance and it all starts in the mind. Train your mind to be 100%, all in, to persist even when the going gets though because you know that if your mind is right everything will follow. 

Remember, if your mind can see it and think about it is because you can make it, have it and experience it! 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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How to captivate with your story.

Write it boldly! 

No one is going to give you what you want, you have to go out there and hunt, don’t ever expect others to help you getting what you want and you won’t suffer deception. 

This is a game, the game is set for each of us to learn and grow and evolve. 

Take it as a movie where you are the main character, the director and the script writer.

Start writing and be BOLD, be brave, share your journey in the most compelling, creative, inspiring, motivational and amazing way you can possibly create.

Do it for you and you will WIN!

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You decide, you observe, you learn, you make your moves, you grow, you fall, you rise, you stand strong, you become and you move the pieces across the board. 

You create you opportunities and once the opportunity comes you take it and learn how to make the most of it. 

You can ask for advice but in the end you have to build up enough strength and confidence to know what you want and make it happen on your own. 

You can help others but always remember to help yourself first.

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Also remember that the people you ask advice from are also people, humans like you and if you don’t take your own risks you will never grow. Listen, learn from those who are where you would like to be but be bold enough to try your own way, the worst thing that can happen is that you learn another way that doesn’t work and you build up confidence from getting out of your comfort zone. 

Everybody is going to help you, it all depends on your perception, if you listen and observe you realise that actually every single thing is moving you forward and the only one holding back is yourself. 

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From some you will learn how to be witty, from others how to treat people, from others how not to treat people, from some you will learn how to be more communicative, from others you will learn how to be strong, from some you will learn to be honest with yourself, from others you will learn how to set healthy boundaries, from others how to ask for help, from others how to love, from some you will learn how to let go, from some you will learn how to forgive, from some you will learn how to say what you really want and be crystal clear, from some you will learn how to flirt, from others you will learn about business, money and persuasion. From every single interaction you will learn more and more about yourself. 

In the end, you realise we are all learning along the way, experimenting with what we have and nobody is perfect. 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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xx

Arya

How to win in life.

Who set the rules in the world? People. 

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Who are those people? Just humans. 

Why do we follow the rules? 

Because it’s easier to follow than to break them and take the risk of failing. 

Who said what’s good and what’s bad? 

Who the hell invented the game? 

Why aren’t we questioning absolutely everything all day every day? 

Because it can be exhausting to realise that those rules are ethereal, that we are caged by our mindsets, that we could be whatever we wanted and yet, here we are, playing the game like everybody else. 

You know why I love the entrepreneur journey? Because apart from being a self discovery journey, it activates the power of creativity, you have to figure out ways of making things happen with what you have, you become your best asset, work on yourself, take risks and chances, see opportunities everywhere, learn from every interaction and realise that false pride takes you nowhere. 

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I am learning to listen, to help others, to be selfish, to be hungry, to be observant, to play my rules and find my game. I am learning that this attitude can be applied to anything in life. I am learning what it means to make myself proud and be proud of it! 

I have learned that when you are the CEO of your life, your habits, mindset and attitude will create the culture of what you are building so better have your mind right and work your ass off for the right reasons!

I have learned to think higher. To read books and take what resonates with me. To listen to others and still do my way if I feel it’s the right thing for me. 

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In the end, no-one can tell you how to live your life because we are all figuring out ways to live better, no-one is right or wrong, it’s simply different and it’s your choice what you make with the time you have been given. 

Mirror those who you admire, ask for help, get a mentor, follow the systems that work so that you can break the system that doesn’t. 

And you shouldn’t care of what people think because big dreams will always seem crazy to small minds so filter who you listen to and keep working towards them. 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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Follow your heart!

Follow your heart, yes, but when to know what’s really your heart and not another game of the mind? 

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Following your heart is tuning in to what makes you feel most alive, no matter what that is, if you could be doing that without being paid, for hours, without thinking when it’s going to end, but wishing that you could be doing that forever, then that’s your purpose. And it doesn’t have to make sense for anyone else but you. 

Your purpose can, may and will change. It’s called growth and evolution!

For me following my heart has taken me to travel around the world, trying to understand why I had so much hunger inside that nothing seemed to fulfill, my mind wandering, and my soul guiding a path that I couldn’t see clear but took the first steps and here I am. In London, writing a blog, growing as a person and becoming the woman I dreamed of. 

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Following my heart has taken me to experience life and open my mind to new dimensions, being courageous enough to walk alone and learning to think by myself. 

Following my heart was messy in the beginning, I didn’t know what would happen but my strong desire to conquer is guiding my steps and I am grateful because the plan is bigger than what we can imagine. 

Why you should follow your heart? 

Because you aren’t born to settle, to limit yourself to the walls your mind is trapped, because there are limitless experiences out there for you to enjoy and it’s all in your hands. 

Because you aren’t born to be mediocre, to fit in, to be normal. 

Why? 

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Because you have life in your lungs and you must fight for that life like it’s the end of the world. 

And it really doesn’t matter, the main point is challenging yourself to make something happen. Little did I know that from the moment that the idea of the festival came to me it would become a reality. 

That’s how it works, you set a goal and find ways to make it a reality. 

It could be doing a course, changing your habits, starting a fitness journey, grabbing a backpack and exploring Asia, telling someone that you like them, quitting a full time job to pursue a passion, starting that side hustle that could bring you more money than you could have ever imagined, moving to a new country…endless possibilities!

My tips: 

  • Write down a list of things you would like to do and start right now to work towards making them come true.
  • Be willing to get out of your confort zone and learn new things. 
  • Erase the “I know this already”, “been there, done that” from your head because every experience is unique.
  • Let this sink in you: fear is an illusion and this game is for you to win and grow into your best self! 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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