5 Tips for BUSY Entrepreneurs Who Want to Be Fearless and Fierce.

This is a mental game. 

Let’s start there. Everything you see is a perception, once you are awake then you can make your dreams come true. Full stop.

So the first step is awakening and saving yourself.

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Today I am sharing with you some self assesment questions I ask myself to make sure that I am on track to fulfilling my goals.

  • Who do I need to become in order for me to succeed?
  • What do I need to learn for me to become the person that I want to be?
  • What’s keeping me so busy that I am being less productive than I would like to be?
  • Who do I need to reach out in order for me to complete my goals?
  • What are my strengths?
  • What are my weaknesses?
  • How can I focus on my strenghts and build them even stronger?
  • Am I doing what I said I would do when I was overly excited or have I slipped off because I have discovered that it’s a bit harder than expected?
  • Am I procrastinating or am I recovering and resting because my body and mind need a break?
  • Am I honest with my results or could I do more and better?
  • What are the tools that I have at hand for me to succeed?
  • What else could I be doing to get where I want to get faster?
  • What’s my plan?

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  • How can I measure my success?
  • How strong do I hit back after failure?
  • How can I make sure I am focused on my goals and shut down distractions?
  • How do I silence the noise of the world?
  • Where do I want to be 6 months from now?
  • What’s the greatest vision that I have for my life? 
  • Am I taking steps towards making that vision a reality or am I daydreaming and wishful thinking?
  • What are the habits that I need to implement, change or adopt for me to become who I dream to become?
  • Who am I?

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After asking yourself this questions and with a clearer view of where you stand you can then apply these 5 simple tips to become fearless and attack life with fierceness: 

  1. Have a clear vision – it will evolve and grow with you, what’s in store for YOU is much more than you can posibly imagine 😉 Believe! 
  2. Focus on what works and repeat over and over again – mastery is a habit, consistency is key. (Don’t confuse this with beating yourself up, choose wisely the pain you will endure, success will take it all from you, choose what makes your soul sing and give it your all!)
  3. Be resilient: do the hard things first thing in the morning – meditate and train hard.
  4. Have a can do attitude – your mindset determines the quality of your results.
  5. Plan and follow through with some steel balls – jump and the net will appear!

NEVER SETTLE!

Leave your comments below, I’d love to read your thoughts about this topic. 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30 minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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A Start-To-Finish Guide to Behavior Change.

When working with my clients the most common thread is starting a new habit and sticking to it, changing the behaviors they have been carrying for years and being consistent with the new ways of doing. 

After all this years, learning, studying, applying myself and seeing others fail and succeed today I wanted to share in depth how there is a “simple” way of actually succeeding in behavior change.

Personally, I believe it all comes down to, HOW BADLY DO YOU WANT IT? 

If the desire for and the feeling of that reward is bigger than the fear of getting out of your comfort zone chances are you are a winner, if you’d rather stay in the couch and complain then…well…you know the story.

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In this start to finish guide to help you with behavior change I will share 5 simple, effective, steps to conquer once and for all any obstacle your mind is placing in your way.

Again, your beliefs shape your reality, so if you think you will remain stagnant and never conquer, that’s a self fulfilling prophecy because you will feel demotivated and give up. If, on the other hand, you have a deep belief that you can achieve anything then you will indeed, achieve anything you set your mind to. 

There are 5 stages to behavior change. Two researchers named Prochaska and DiClemente developed a way of describing it in what they called the Stages of Change Model. Though originally developed in the context of smoking cessation, it’s five stages actually describe the process by which all behaviors change.

Stage 1) 

Denial and resistance. You might be told that something needs change and yet deny the fact that you need help, why would things be going wrong if you are feeling ok? WRONG! You are comfortable and living in habit that doesn’t mean that you are doing well. If you choose to see every trigger as a messenger and are willing to investigate why you are being triggered then you will move on to the next stage and evolve.

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Stage 2) 

In this stage you know you have to change something and you are contemplating the idea of changing. The key here is to find a deep reason why to change, and it has to be personal and motivating. For some of you going to the gym is a burden, if you shift the preception to training for a longer, happier and better life or being able to run with your kids, or to stop beong jealous of those beach bodies…whatever motivates you is what will kick your ass, not what you are supposed to do but what you deeply feel like you have to do.

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You will find obstacles at this stage – I’ve seen couples, one trying to loose weight and the partner bringing cake post workout – , remember that you come from doing things a certain way and everything around you is used to you being a certain way, the same way is hard for you to change it is as well for your environment because you changing means that they will have to change or, you will organically move on. You will succeed if the reason why you must change is stronger than the obstacles. 

Stage 3) 

Determination. At this stage you are full on preparing, getting ready for action, determined to breakthrough and change your ways. In my case it meant cutting of smoking, drinking, going out and sleepless nights. It wasn’t overnight, I had to be really fed up with my situation and be triggered by a sudden death for me to act. Once you are ready and filled with the belief that you can change then you take action!

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Stage 4) 

Wisdom comes from experience and action is wisdom. One day you wake up and you are consistently going to the gym, the battle is mental this time though, you are going to the gym consistently, start comparing yourself to others, suffer the fight of feeling not good enough, you continue showing up and even though every demon will try to defeat you, there you are, changed!

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Stage 5) 

Consistency and maintaining the behaviors require you to be abstinent and far away from temptation, whatever your temptation is or was. If you were addicted to porn you will have to be away from it and be aware of what triggers you to relapse. 

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Because, yes, you will relapse and relapse isn’t failure as long as you don’t give up. Every time you fall you can learn from it and rise up stronger. The thing is the more determined you become, the higher goals you set, the more challenging the outcomes, the harder the battle, the stronger you become and the less and less relapses you will have. 

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Know yourself, know your strengths, know your weaknesses, know what makes you say F*** it and throw the towel and know what keeps your fire lit! 

Changing your behavior is not a punishment, discipline isn’t suffering, embrace pain as part of growth. Changing is for good and for the better. When I see an athlete sweating his or her ass off, or a boxer fighting for a title, I see greatness, that sweat, pain, blood and tears is what makes the reward so addictive.

When bettering your life it feels painful because old ways must die, the old you must die,  your character, ego driven, must die and that feels painful, it takes balls and it takes courage but what’s on the other side is greatness and that, well, that’s what you were born for 😉 

NEVER SETTLE! 

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If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30 minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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The ultimate 5 TIPS to help YOU stick to a new habit.

For me the key to success is in achieving goals, daily, weekly, monthly and yearly that summed up will make your life the success you dream of. 

Although the definition of success is very broad and personal and here are some of the most succesful people in the world and their own personal definitions of success.

The one that stands out for me is the definition of Stephen Covey, author of “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People“, a must read if you want to have more resources to speed up your growth:

“If you carefully consider what you want to be said of you in the funeral experience,” he writes in the book, “you will find your definition of success.”

Starting a new habit is hard, being honest with yourself that you must change something in your life is hard, admitting it and taking action towards implementing change is hard. Or that’s what you tend to believe.

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Change is hard or so you believe and some of the reasons why you don’t stick to a new habit for long are: 

  • You aren’t motivated enough. 
  • You talk yourself out of it because you don’t really believe you can do it. 
  • You are not consistent enough and after starting you miss a few days and get back to being where you started. 
  • You listen to others who aren’t where you want to be but they are your friends or family and they must want you good so why give you a bad advice, right? WRONG!
  • You start too many new habits at a time and don’t follow through.  

The list could go on and on because the list of excuses we make when we don’t want to face the truth is endless. 

Here is another truth for you, starting a new habit can be easy, sticking to it as well, and it’s all up to your mindset and developing a consistent routine that will help you achieve those goals faster. 

My first tip that will help you stick to that new habit you want to implement in your life to better it is: start with 1 or 2 habits at a time. Let’s say you want to start meditation and eating healthy, good, introduce both practices in your daily to do list as a must do.

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The second tip will be just START and start with small steps, going from eating junk daily to eating whole foods takes a lot of will power so start with a meal a day, few poses of yoga, 30 minutes of exercise or meditating 10 minutes a day during 4 weeks. After those 4 weeks level up and do 20 minutes of meditation or 2 healthy meals a day, 45 minutes of training etc You get the point.

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Third tip? Observe your thought patterns. Watch how your mind talks you out of your new habit. This can happen even to an experienced meditation master, to an athlete, to a successful person, we will be tested, your mind will play all kinds of tricks to keep you in the comfort zone, even if that comfort zone is a place where you are unhappy somehow is better than the unknown. Be self aware and continue moving forward, you are always in control of your choices. 

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My fourth tip to help you start a new habit and actually sticking to it is, never ever miss 2 days, never cheat two meals in a row. With this one as always I use my passion for fitness to set the example, let’s say you have started a new diet plan because you have a specific and challenging goal in mind, you are pushing your limits and moving past the plateau you found yourself at (you can apply this to anything in life because whenever you reach a limit in any area of your life that means you are in a plateau, mentally, physically, financially, emotionally or spiritually). So, if you slip one day or cheated one meal, make sure the day after you catch up full on, no excuses, you train harder, control your food intake and make sure you remember what happens if you miss one day. Your mind gets stronger with time and so do your habits. 

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My fifth tip? Be accountable, tell your closest friends what you want to achieve, have people around you who will be super honest with you, it’s better to listen to the hard truth than living in a delusion. Be accountable and consistent and you will see results! 

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If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30 minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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5 steps that help YOU achieve YOUR goals faster.

This life is time and the more you wake up the more you see the limitless posibilities of it.

Successful people know how to say yes to what helps them achieve their goals and how to cut off the BS and anything that may stop them from bettering their life.

How can I achieve my goals faster?

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Well, first of all make sure you have clear goals and then use this 5 simple steps, you can apply them to anything that you do in life:

1. Focus on 2 or 3 goals at a time. When you see the big picture, break down the bigger goals in smaller phases and stick to them until successful. How do you know you have achieved a goal? Here comes the second step.

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2. Set targets, set deadlines and measure your results. The same way you measure yourself when training in the gym measure your results in any other aspect of your life. Put some pressure, challenge your limits! It’s all your mindset! Are you a winner or a cry baby? Simple question!

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3. Understand that patience will cost you the game and you have to learn to balance the drive to succeed with the patience of the marathon that is the succesful life you are creating.

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4. Ask for help, there are people who have been where you want to be that can help you reach your goals faster. The master appears when the student is ready and once it does it’s responsibility of the student to dive deep in whatever the subject of study is.

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5. Consistency and discipline. Even when you feel like there is no progress the simple fact of showing up and doing the same things over and over, over time prove that you are comitted and results will show.

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If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30 minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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How to increase your confidence.

Life is a game, it all starts in your mind, it all starts within.

The results you are getting in the outside world are a mirror of your mindset. When you hear “stretch your mind” means let your walls down, admit that you might be mistaken and that there might be other ways of getting what you want.

What we get is usually tied to what we think we deserve, how we see ourselves is what we are getting from the world.

If you think you don’t deserve more that mediocre results in any level of your life, that’s what you will get.

When you upgrade your confidence and actually see that you can become whatever you want then life will transform for you and your experience will be enriched by more and more pleasant situations and new people who will bring new energies.

And it all starts within, it all starts by accepting the reflection in the mirror.

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Facing our reflection is facing our fears, seeing how we have been living by what others may think, comparing our bodies with others, deciding our self worth based on someone else’s standards, instead of accepting ourselves we are placing our value in the hands of others.

We might have smaller boobs, bigger booty, smaller or bigger waist…whatever! Everything is possible, you change your mindset, you love yourself enough to wake up and take action towards a more healthy way of living, you hit the gym hard and build a body you are proud of!

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But nothing outside you can give you the confidence you need. First love your body how it looks now and then do the changes you want, surround yourself with people who will push you to the next level, model them, get inspired and become who you really are.

Try this and walk the street with confidence, no headphones, and you will see what happens 😉 

We take little time of the day to really see ourselves and when we do is through the lenses of others, comparing our progress with the lives of others.

Take a deep breath!

YOU ARE EXACTLY where you are meant to be! 

YOU CAN! 

YOU WILL!

YOU ARE doing this! 

FOR YOU! 

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Do you want more success in your career? Go for it! 

Do you want a different life? Go create it! 

Do you want more money? Go make it! 

Do you want love? Go love yourself! 

Do you want passionate sex? Make love to yourself until you are exhausted! 

That body you are not loving enough is the temple of your soul, it will reflect your mindset and your self projection. 

You are here to evolve, no rush, time is yours and you deserve this time for you.

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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To be continued…next Tuesday 😉 

How your words create your reality.

Are we still alive? 

AMAZING! 

Let’s keep working then!

Beliefs are simply thoughts that if repeated enough times they become imprinted in our subconscious and we allow them to guide our actions; beliefs shape our reality and when we take control of them our world starts to shift. 

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How you speak about yourself, the energy you put in your words, what type of words do you use, are you energised and motivated or are you catastrophic and fearful, are you judgemental and victimised or are you listening more than speaking?

Observe how you answer to people, why do you reply the way you do and observe what image you portrait of yourself. 

Are you feeling entitled to all the abundance or do you feel deep inside that things won’t end up going the way you want in the end so why bother trying? 

That’s a belief, that’s a belief that you have reinforced during your life thinking that when things didn’t go your way is because you made mistakes and made the wrong moves. That’s a strong belief that must be changed from today if you want to make it happen as big as you talk.

There are no mistakes and there is no wrong path because ABSOLUTELY everything that happened to you and EVERY SINGLE CHOICE YOU MADE was placed there to make you the person you are today! 

Life has many layers, we want to be successful at work, find our perfect partner, live the life of our dreams, have perfect health, a joyful social life, we want to launch a business that leaves a legacy, be the perfect leader, travel the world, free from debt, have billions in the bank and find our purpose.

Ok, one by one, my advice?

Start with you! 

IT’S ALL IN YOU! 

IT’S ALL UP TO YOU! 

Decide what you want, if you want a serious relationship state it out loud, if you want to reach your fitness goals make a commitment, if you want to move to another country start researching, if you want to launch and idea, start now. If you think that those amazing things that other people seem to be living aren’t for you REMEMBER THAT THAT’S ONLY A BELIEF! 

To make anything happen you have to believe you deserve it and you will be able to do that through building confidence.

How do you build confidence? 

By taking action! DAILY! 

Annalise all those things that you think are missing from your life: money, relationships, fun, travels, health, fulfillment?

Why are you doing this to yourself and making your soul live in such despair?

True confidence comes when we take control and responsibility for our life, when we forgive ourselves for not knowing before what we know now and when we reframe those past actions by comprehending that the journey is taking us towards our ascension no matter what, there are no right or wrong paths and that’s why you are changing your life just by reading these posts. 

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When starting this journey you will feel the desire to share it with others, you will think: why nobody else is doing it, why this hasn’t been taught in schools? Why people are not doing something else with their lives but gossiping and complaining?

STOP! 

Every journey is different and all those external inputs are for you to react, you shouldn’t bother, they are guiding your internal light, when you feel disgust or discomfort towards something, remove yourself from the scene, walk away, if you stay is because you are still wired with the mediocrity of those unenlightened.

Your service here is to become your best self not to tell others how they should be living their life. 

WHO ARE YOU TO JUDGE ANYWAY? When you are basically learning to walk right now? 

Keep this to yourself, work on yourself for yourself, daily, and allow the Universe to align you with those in your same vibration.

Learn through meditation how to discern, what’s right for you and what’s not. Choose your wellbeing no matter what.

To be continued next Tuesday…;) 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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