How to cut the BS and start winning.

When packaging my gift and tools for my students, brainstorming the needs and desires and how to satisfy them while providing a challenging enough system that transforms their lives I realised after going through my notes that: 

  • We are never ready. 
  • We aren’t aware of our excuses. 
  • We don’t like change.
  • We think that our thoughts are real. And they become real. 
  • We are too influenced by others.
  • We are too scared by the fears of others.
  • We allow somebody else’s beliefs and limitations to determine our results. 
  • We give your power back every time we don’t speak up for something that bothers us.
  • We are too nice.

Adele gif no time for that

And I say we because I take ownership of my own personal journey. 

We live for the experience, the emotion, the outcome, the shortcut, the speed process, the fast track, the instant gratification, the 90 days “solve my life” programs, we live for the right here right now and when brainstorming with my team to develop this programmes we discovered that exactly that was the reason why the process I use in my programmes were working. 

They go straight to the point, to the core, to the needs, they are focused on the journey, the results, the tools are the guides, I am there to support and the students are the creators.

You know something? 

Here is one big unshakable truth for you: WE ARE ALL DYING! OK? 

So, after you swallow that, go back to the first paragraph and laugh at all the BS you have been taking up until now. The main one, coming from your own head. 

My clients want to be in control of their lives, they want to feel a sense of purpose, they want to have businesses, they want confidence, they want discipline, they want their projects to be completed, they want to leave a legacy, they want their purpose and they want, most of all to be happy. 

And you know? 

success quote Winston Churchill

Another truth for you. If you want to make your dreams come true you have to make money, how much is up to you. The beliefs that you carry about money are the only thing stepping in your way. Your mind. Your mindset is the only thing stepping in your way. 

Dream BIG!

The programmes I have created are personal, premium and exclusive. Each of them has specific features that will evolve depending on your own personal needs. Because it all depends on YOU. 

Your life. Your rules. And I will be there to support you and guide you along the way. 

You have to start somewhere so let me share with you 3 exercises that you can start doing right away that will help you improve your mindset: 

  1. Recognise that not everything that you believe to be true is true and that your fears are simply thoughts that hold you back.  
  2. Take ownership of your failures =opportunities for improvement and stop blaming others for your situation. 
  3. Ask yourself if it’s worth it to continue overthinking the ‘what ifs’ instead of simply taking steps towards your goals. 

Remember, the clock is ticking! 

 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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The #1 obstacle I faced when starting my business was…

The #1 obstacle I faced when starting my business was…believing in myself enough to know that I could really do this thing called my own business and stopping procrastination. 

Can you relate to the overwhelming feeling of entering the unknown world of having your own business?: 

  • Will I be delivering a good enough service?
  • Will this work?
  • Will people even buy?
  • How do I ask for money for something that comes so natural to me?
  • What if they say no?
  • Do I have enough experience to take this risk?
  • I don’t know anything about business, how am I going to make this work?
  • How do I find my clients?
  • How will I tell them to buy from me?
  • Why is so difficult to make money?
  • Why am I always frustrated?
  • Will I always be busy and never have time for the things that matter to me?
  • What if I succeed and this is not what I want to do for the rest of my life?
  • Where do I start?
  • What happens if I make a mistake?
  • Will I be able to I leave my full time job?
  • HOW DO I MAKE MONEY?

The more you look for answers in books, blogs and other people’s experiences the worst it gets, anxiety takes over and leaves you completely paralysed full of FEAR.

Are you afraid of THINKING BIG?

Do you think being successful means being stressed, busy and not having time for the things you like the most and the people you love? 

Everything takes you to the same frustrating question:

“What are they doing that I am not to make this business a success?”

Last year I was stuck. I had been trying different businesses for years, going to seminars, reading books and blogs, asking people for opinion, until I decided it was time for a change and decided to ask for an expert’s help.

The only thing that has consistently helped is personalised advice on my exact situation from someone that has been there before me.

Sometimes you just need someone to tell you exactly what to do. 


Over the last year I have been offering 1:1 coaching sessions to entrepreneurs, like you and me, who struggle with the same fears, blocks and mindset limitations I once did too.

 

Here some of the disciplines that are helping them overcome their blocks, among others:

  1. Meditation: it brings clarity and helps you stay grounded when things go different than expected.
  2. Prioritising tasks and have tos, must dos: our endless to do lists can improve our lives if we simplify, focus and prioritise by blocking tasks with deadlines and outsourcing.
  3. Being selfish and putting themselves first at the beginning of their to do list.

Simply by choosing our personal wellbeing before any social commitment relieves the stress and helps us focus in what matters for our business, our lives and overall success.

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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How to develop a thick skin.

And when I mean thick I mean, learn to cope with the nos, learn to cope with rejection, become so strong in your truth that you learn to let go of anything that doesn’t serve your purpose.

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Rejection is redirection, anytime you get a no it takes you closer to that yes that will shift your direction and continue propeling you towards achieving your goals. 

When I hear people say, it’s hard, it’s complicated, it’s a struggle…seriously? If it was easy everyone would do it and that’s why you must push hard.

To develop a thick skin means as well to learn to listen, not everybody that is nice with you wants you well and not everybody that’s ignoring you wants you bad. Discern, listen and decide what you take, what you allow and what you delete.

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Sometimes it will be subtle, just a few words mid conversation that tell you everything about the person in front of you, sometimes it will be so subtle like a facial expression, or you won’t even notice and it won’t show but you can sense it. Tune into that, your gut knows better.

Remember, this is your game, you are in control, you decide what, who, where, when and why. The rest is simply background noise, shut it down, focus, keep the tunnel vision towards your goals, remember that the road can be long and smooth or short and sweet, the speed is perfectly timed and yours is individual to you. This is your game, take what serves you and shred what doesn’t.

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Thick skin is also being aware when you want to please somebody else, being aware of the reasons why you want to please somebody else than you, being mindful of the consequences and choosing to put yourself first.

People pleasing and success only go hand in hand if you are selling ice cream. If you are battling for greatness prepare for war because they will come from all the angles, keep your centre and remember, you are winning in the end! 

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And the hardest will be in your mind, with all those beliefs that you think to be truth, with all the limitations that you think to be truth, with all the fears that you take as truth, with all the memories that keep you small and with all the habits that keep you stuck.

Let go!

Develop a thick skin by going out there and learning to ask for feedback, learn to take criticism and comprehend that both days you are winning, wether they praise you or they judge you.

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Who cares? Keep moving forward! 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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The power of listening.

This one has been a massive breakthrough and when I say listen I mean that, listen to the voice of others, not the voice in your head thinking about the next story to follow the conversation, follow their story and ask questions, be curious! 

By listening we can see through, we can get to comprehend what others are experiencing and for me it’s interesting as well because to be honest, we are little aware of the words we use and how we use them, we affirm things about ourselves product of laziness or lack of self awareness and believe those things to be true. 

Words are power.

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A word placed correctly can change the complete meaning of a sentence, a life, a day. 

A word misplaced or misused can condemn a situation, a person. 

Words are a great tool when appropriately used.

This is about the words we use out and the words we use in our heads. 

What are you feeding your mind? 

What are the repeating thought patterns? 

What are you over and over and over again playing in your head believing that to be true? 

In a previous post I wrote about the power of our thoughts and how they create our reality, words create thoughts and our thoughts connect with our emotions and then we take action. 

Just imagine ok, that you are able to think successful, positive, greatness, faith, strength, wisdom, 90% of the time. 

The trick here is more about being aware and patient through the journey than bottling happy thoughts. 

There is a secret and the secret is that whatever you feed your mind with that you will become. 

Simple. Powerful. 

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What you think you are is the product of books, media, people, situations, memories and beliefs transferred by bloodline or relationships. 

Imagine there is a way of transforming your life from the inside out, simply by reframing every single situation, memory, thought, belief, that you have. 

That’s a gigantic work right? The results are mind blowing! It’s worth working on it! 

To do this exercise the best way is to work on presence, on seeing what’s in front of you, learn how to read between the lines, ask questions if you can’t comprehend something, people will tell you what they need and what they are looking for if you are able to focus on them instead of focusing on you. 

Practical applications? 

Networking, business, relationships and life in general. The more you practice this skill the better you get at it. 

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Tip to get it better: remember that everyone has an opinion and not everyone’s opinion matters. Know yourself, know your strengths, and take the advice of those that resonate with you. You decide your life experience, be fearless! 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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“What you think, you become.”

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve,” Napoleon Hill once said. “The mind is everything. What you think, you become,” Buddha taught. You’ve heard high-minded quotes like these all your life.

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The truth is that there is something to the power of the mind and whatever it is that you ask is what you get. If you have the courage to believe that change is possible then change happens.

My passion for the unlimited potential of the human mind is what brings me to search for the blueprint of highly successful people, and obviously successful depending on your view of success.

For me success is financial freedom, is the power of choice, of being able to decide what you want to do any time without having to worry, that’s my view of success.

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Reading about the millionaire minds one day I realised that nowadays anyone can be a millionaire, being a billionaire requires another type of thinking and with the internet we have access to the secrets and ways that separate the highly successful from average.

Whatever it is that you think about Trump, to me he is an example of doing business. In the end, life is a massive business and he is the president if the biggest corporation in the world. We can always learn something, right?

Yesterday, looking for his book “Trump, think like a billionaire” found out reading the reviews that his POV comes down to one thing: we live in an abundant world and we are born to be rich. Full stop.

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Lack and scarcity are a product of the mind, the reality is that your perception of life decides the reality you live in. Money is the tool to achieve our dreams and without it you can’t do s***!

I am sharing the 10 ways Trump thinks like a billionaire that now are in my desktop and part of my habitual reads (source Bold and determined):

10 Ways to Think Like a Billionaire

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1. “Don’t take vacations. What’s the point? If you’re not enjoying work, you’re in the wrong job.”

2. “Have a short attention span…. you can get more done faster that way.”

3. “Don’t sleep any more than you have to. I usually sleep about 4 hours a night.”

4. “Don’t depend on technology… I don’t even have an ATM card; I’ve never used one in my life.”

5. “Think of yourself as a one-man army… and live to the hilt.”

6. “It’s often to your advantage to be underestimated.

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7. “Success breeds success. The best way to impress people is through results.”

8. “Friends are good, but family is better.”

9. “Treat each decision like a lover… the day I realised it’s sometimes smart to be shallow was, for me, a deep experience.”

10. “Be curious… hungry to understand your immediate world. Otherwise you’ll lack the perspective to see beyond yourself.”

Obviously, this is someone’s else experience and opinion and it’s your decision what to take and what to refuse, although the truth is that if there is a blueprint that works f*** emotions and be bold! 

After all, is your choice to do the best with the time you have been given, if you have to dream anyway, you might as well dream BIG! 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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How to build mental strength.

And this is why I am passionate about fitness. It builds a mental strength like no other.

When you are tired you must keep pushing, even if you go slower just that keep going instead of quitting means winning.

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There are loads of reasons why I could recommend fitness and weight lifting. One of them is the mental toughness that you develop while working out. 

Focus, strength, resilience, endurance, determination and I could go on. 

The other day I learnt something, I was working out and got a text message with “bad” news. This is the scenario, I am sweating like crazy, my headphones’ battery had died, so the inner coach had to be full on nor to get lost in thought. 

When you set a goal, let’s say you tell to yourself, I am doing 40 crunches in the roman chair, ok? You just do them, you train your mind to go until the number 40 and the thing is and here is the lesson.

I told myself, I am doing 20 and then at 12 something inside me saying, nah, you can do 12 only and then my body stops. 

Without the music the workout is different, to help me focus I bring my attention to the muscles and how they are working. Realising that the only way I could break a pattern was by actually doing what I said I was going to do hit me. 

This thought came to me: When you are tired keep pushing, even if you go slower just that keep going instead of quitting it’s winning.

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It was the last round, the circuit is hardcore, it’s a core blast without rest of a 20 second plank, 20 mountain climbers with side twist for each leg, and then the killer, 20 tapping shoulder plank with two plank jumping jacks and to finish a plank to pike jump, the last one is 3 exercises in 1.

This one is to sweat it out like it’s raining, the heart rates goes high, you have to keep focus on the form and the core tight, it takes practice and it’s about the endurance more than the speed. 

The last few days when I felt the burn I rested for a couple of seconds and continued and here is the thing, those seconds seem nothing serious, right? WRONG! The moment I do that I am creating a habit, the habit of quitting or giving up as soon as I feel real pain and the avoidance of pain is comfort zone, it can spread to anything you do in life. 

As soon as I realised this the clarity and focus was incredible, it was maybe survival mode, activation of all my senses, the realisation that that text message had made me realise my strength and how much the gym is helping my growth and business. 

In the end, life is a big business and we are the CEOs! It’s called res-pon-si-bi-li-ty and control over our life experience. 

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Set a goal, set the intention of doing it no matter what, even if you have to do it slower, keep going, keep pushing, control the form, believe you can do it because you have done it before, and when you finish the set you will be proud of yourself because you gave your all and did the best you could. 

We live in a world that is moved by instant gratification, long term visions require endurance and it all starts in the mind. Train your mind to be 100%, all in, to persist even when the going gets though because you know that if your mind is right everything will follow. 

Remember, if your mind can see it and think about it is because you can make it, have it and experience it! 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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How to captivate with your story.

Write it boldly! 

No one is going to give you what you want, you have to go out there and hunt, don’t ever expect others to help you getting what you want and you won’t suffer deception. 

This is a game, the game is set for each of us to learn and grow and evolve. 

Take it as a movie where you are the main character, the director and the script writer.

Start writing and be BOLD, be brave, share your journey in the most compelling, creative, inspiring, motivational and amazing way you can possibly create.

Do it for you and you will WIN!

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You decide, you observe, you learn, you make your moves, you grow, you fall, you rise, you stand strong, you become and you move the pieces across the board. 

You create you opportunities and once the opportunity comes you take it and learn how to make the most of it. 

You can ask for advice but in the end you have to build up enough strength and confidence to know what you want and make it happen on your own. 

You can help others but always remember to help yourself first.

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Also remember that the people you ask advice from are also people, humans like you and if you don’t take your own risks you will never grow. Listen, learn from those who are where you would like to be but be bold enough to try your own way, the worst thing that can happen is that you learn another way that doesn’t work and you build up confidence from getting out of your comfort zone. 

Everybody is going to help you, it all depends on your perception, if you listen and observe you realise that actually every single thing is moving you forward and the only one holding back is yourself. 

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From some you will learn how to be witty, from others how to treat people, from others how not to treat people, from some you will learn how to be more communicative, from others you will learn how to be strong, from some you will learn to be honest with yourself, from others you will learn how to set healthy boundaries, from others how to ask for help, from others how to love, from some you will learn how to let go, from some you will learn how to forgive, from some you will learn how to say what you really want and be crystal clear, from some you will learn how to flirt, from others you will learn about business, money and persuasion. From every single interaction you will learn more and more about yourself. 

In the end, you realise we are all learning along the way, experimenting with what we have and nobody is perfect. 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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xx

Arya