How to define love for yourself.

I have read this a few times “love starts within” and I couldn’t grasp what it really meant.

Let’s leave aside the word/concept of love, will write an article with my thoughts on that topic a bit later.

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But what does that statement mean? If you have parts of yourself that need attention and healing you will attract people in your life who will act in ways that will push all your buttons until you decide once and for all to check your inner world.

Self love has to be a discipline, self love is not half ass makeup, get a personal trainer, buy new clothes or change your habits. Self love is facing the “good”* and the “ugly”* and being ok with it. 

*who decides what is good and what is right for you? who decides what is good and what is ugly? 

The only way to see another person truly is by being true to yourself, then you can understand what someone else might be going through. But most important, you start to comprehend why you do the things you do, why some things happen the way they do and you gain your power back, day by day, little by little.

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If we expect someone else to fix us, we are doomed. 

If we expect someone else to complete us, we are insane. 

If we expect someone else to give us the love we want, we are being dishonest. 

If we expect from others what we are not willing to give to ourselves we are settling for less than we deserve and signing a contract with pain. Over and over again. 

Love must start in our core, being selfish with our time and space, with our company.

Love yourself so deeply that you don’t care anymore about what other people might think, you speak your truth, even when it hurts.

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Love yourself so deeply that you embrace both light and dark and allow yourself to experience life in your own terms.

Love yourself so much that you invest in your wellbeing first and foremost, that you explore your depths through meditation and test the external world to conquer your fears.

Love yourself so much that you question your taboos and beliefs daily and make the adjustments you want to get the experiences that you want to live.

Love yourself so much that you go for what you want. Classy but, RUTHLESSLY! 

Love is a concept. And it all starts in how you see yourself!

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You are worthy of love and belonging.

But first of all, do you belong to yourself?

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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How to maximise comparison, envy and jealousy

Yes, you can always get something positive out of those emotions.

Social media this, social media that but let’s be honest…when we say comparison isn’t healthy, what’s the root of it?

Why do you see a feed and wish you had the same?

Ask yourself, how can I make it happen for me? Instead of the victim mentality of, Why can’t I have that as well? 

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Why are you jealous of someone who is winning and then belittle them, talk bad about them or say things like: she must have got some surgery, call other women bitches, or simply get angry and annoyed?

Comparison, envy, jealousy comes from insecurities and the only way to build up your confidence is setting goals and committing to them. 

Because if you are putting the work I don’t see the competition. If you are in your lane why should you even bother with what others are doing? Their success should be an inspiration for your own success because you comprehend that if they can make it so can you, if you put in the work, of course. 

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Stop scrolling and start creating and doing, stop comparing and start reflecting and realising that yes, life is a game, life is a challenge and life is what you make it. 

If you are wasting your time talking about others, well, your life is time, time is money and you are wasting precious seconds of your life doing what? Bitching about others?

We all fall into this trap at some point, whether we verbalise it or not, we see others making it, somewhere we would like to be, without knowing anything about their journey.

Can I tell you a secret?

You will always win! 

The game of life is created with you in the center of your universe and designed to challenge you to reach your highest potential and wasting your time in what others are doing won’t get you any further. 

Get things done, learn your lessons, wake up, work on yourself, strengthen your strengths, put down your walls and be willing to learn and unlearn and relearn because for every next level of your life you will need to transform and adapt to change.

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The dance teacher told me the other day that I don’t listen, that I think that I know already and that way I will never learn and you know what? That hit hard, because it’s true, and that’s my work for today, to open my eyes and be willing to learn from those who know better than me and can help me get where I want.

To be a master you first must be a student! 

What do you do when you feel envy or jealousy? Take action or find all the reasons why you can’t get what you want? 

Leave your comments below! 😉

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

ONLY 5 SPOTS AVAILABLE.  FIRST COME. FIRST SERVED.