And when I mean thick I mean, learn to cope with the nos, learn to cope with rejection, become so strong in your truth that you learn to let go of anything that doesn’t serve your purpose.
Rejection is redirection, anytime you get a no it takes you closer to that yes that will shift your direction and continue propeling you towards achieving your goals.
When I hear people say, it’s hard, it’s complicated, it’s a struggle…seriously? If it was easy everyone would do it and that’s why you must push hard.
To develop a thick skin means as well to learn to listen, not everybody that is nice with you wants you well and not everybody that’s ignoring you wants you bad. Discern, listen and decide what you take, what you allow and what you delete.
Sometimes it will be subtle, just a few words mid conversation that tell you everything about the person in front of you, sometimes it will be so subtle like a facial expression, or you won’t even notice and it won’t show but you can sense it. Tune into that, your gut knows better.
Remember, this is your game, you are in control, you decide what, who, where, when and why. The rest is simply background noise, shut it down, focus, keep the tunnel vision towards your goals, remember that the road can be long and smooth or short and sweet, the speed is perfectly timed and yours is individual to you. This is your game, take what serves you and shred what doesn’t.
Thick skin is also being aware when you want to please somebody else, being aware of the reasons why you want to please somebody else than you, being mindful of the consequences and choosing to put yourself first.
People pleasing and success only go hand in hand if you are selling ice cream. If you are battling for greatness prepare for war because they will come from all the angles, keep your centre and remember, you are winning in the end!
And the hardest will be in your mind, with all those beliefs that you think to be truth, with all the limitations that you think to be truth, with all the fears that you take as truth, with all the memories that keep you small and with all the habits that keep you stuck.
Develop a thick skin by going out there and learning to ask for feedback, learn to take criticism and comprehend that both days you are winning, wether they praise you or they judge you.
Who cares? Keep moving forward!