No one is going to give you what you want, you have to go out there and hunt, don’t ever expect others to help you getting what you want and you won’t suffer deception.
This is a game, the game is set for each of us to learn and grow and evolve.
Take it as a movie where you are the main character, the director and the script writer.
You decide, you observe, you learn, you make your moves, you grow, you fall, you rise, you stand strong, you become and you move the pieces across the board.
You create you opportunities and once the opportunity comes you take it and learn how to make the most of it.
You can ask for advice but in the end you have to build up enough strength and confidence to know what you want and make it happen on your own.
You can help others but always remember to help yourself first and yes, the selfish run the world because you can’t give from an empty bucket.
Also remember that the people you ask advice from are also people, humans like you and if you don’t take your own risks you will never grow. Listen, learn from those who are where you would like to be but be bold enough to try your own way, the worst thing that can happen is that you learn another way that doesn’t work and you build up confidence from getting out of your comfort zone.
Everybody is going to help you, it all depends on your perception, if you listen and observe you realise that actually every single thing is moving you forward and the only one holding back is yourself.
From some you will learn how to be witty, from others how to treat people, from others how not to treat people, from some you will learn how to be more communicative, from others you will learn how to be strong, from some you will learn to be honest with yourself, from others you will learn how to set healthy boundaries, from others how to ask for help, from others how to love, from some you will learn how to let go, from some you will learn how to forgive, from some you will learn how to say what you really want and be crystal clear, from some you will learn how to flirt, from others you will learn about business, money and persuasion. From every single interaction you will learn more and more about yourself.
In the end, you realise we are all learning along the way, experimenting with what we have and nobody is perfect.