Observe when you are about to fall down the trap of blaming others of your luck, when you are about to talk bad about a colleague, when you are about to share a negative thing that happened, when you are giving more than one thought to a situation that annoyed you, laugh it of, don’t fight it, simply move your attention towards something else, think Holy guacamoly! Again? and laugh!
Treat these actions like you would treat your inner kid, with love but when you are teaching something you must be firm and determined, you know what’s best for you, give it to yourself.
Bitching can be against ourselves as well, for example right now I am writing these posts and I am thinking who the fuck am I to be sharing these thoughts with you?
Something inside me holds me back, you know what? Fear of failing! But if I don’t try I have already failed by default.
Stop complaining about things and realise that things aren’t the way you would like because you are learning, every journey has it’s own pace and as long as you keep aiming for greatness all is good.
If you wake up every morning with the determination to rise above your limitations you will eventually get it done, if the desire in your heart to overcome your struggle is stronger than your laziness then you will make things happen and find ways to make them happen.
Today is a day to focus in all the good in your life, see everything not as a stuck point but as a stepping stone.
Everything is in your life for you to outgrow your yesterday’s self. It’s for you to outplay and outwork every version of yourself who doesn’t believe dreams do come true.
EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE HAPPENS FOR YOU TO LEARN AND EVOLVE!
The problem is that we want to be part of the pack and being part of the pack we settle, we try to fit in so desperately that we loose our spark, we allow ourselves to be dragged to parties we don’t feel like going, we jump into relationships that feel off from the beginning because we are scared of being left out, we are so scared of being alone and lonely that we don’t take time to know ourselves and we accept wherever life throws at us, we sit there, waiting, waiting, waiting, for things to fall into place when the reality is, things will only fall into place when we jump and take risks.
Today the risk is being called grumpy, crazy, bad friend, and loads of other things. People will “worry”, they will try to call you back to the pack, you simply stay in your lane and see how your thoughts drift, how you put still the blame on those around you, how you are giving your power away.
Letting go of people you have been hanging around for a while isn’t easy, you are used to the behaviours you share, you feel guilty and a bad person for putting yourself first, they will say you are selfish, that you are thinking you are someone, that those heights where you are going are unknown for them, that you have changed and you are a different person now!
That was the whole point, baby! Change or die!
Let me repeat something that I said in the previous posts: everything we get in the outside world is a reflection of what’s going on in the inside world.
Why do some people get what they want easy and others seem to continuously struggle through life?
Because of their beliefs. The experiences we get are repeating patterns until we see the pattern and take a different action.
“Criticism is very unlikely to be effective, because it will just put people on the defensive. As Carnegie says,
“Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment.”
Carnegie then presents several examples of criticism going bad, and follows it up with saying,
“Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain—and most fools do.
But it takes great character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”
He ends the chapter with the following paragraph,
“Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing that criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness.”
We waste too much time complaining of how things have gone wrong in the past, how things go wrong now and how everything is against us all day every day.
That negativity is poison!
Complaints are infused with the role of the victim who has no choice but to continue the same chain of facts that keeps them trapped in a reality that they don’t like.
Well, let me tell you that, YOU DO HAVE A CHOICE!
CHANGE OR REMAIN THE SAME!
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To be continued…next Tuesday 😉