Today we woke up feeling a bit different, we know now that our higher self is guiding us, we are allowing life to move through us, we are loving our reflection in the mirror and learning to not give a fuck about what others may think.
This is a daily work, be patient and stay woke!
EXERCISE NUMBER 7:
Today we will exercise our discipline again, after the meditation and our mirror moment we will do the effort of not bitching, not criticising, not complaining, not whining during 24h. Observe when you are about to fall down the trap of blaming others of your luck, when you are about to talk bad about a colleague, when you are about to share a negative thing that happened, when you are giving more than one thought to a situation that annoyed you, laugh it of, don’t fight it, simply move your attention towards something else, think Holy guacamoly! Again? and laugh!
Treat these actions like you would treat your inner kid, with love but when you are teaching something you must be firm and determined, you know what’s best for you, give it to yourself.
Bitching can be against ourselves as well, for example right now I am writing these posts and I am thinking who the fuck am I to be sharing these thoughts with you?
Something inside me holds me back, you know what? Fear of failing! But if I don’t try I have already failed by default.
So today is the day to let go of all those negative patterns and re-write the story of our lives.
Stop complaining about things and realise that things aren’t the way you would like because you are learning, every journey has it’s own pace and as long as you keep aiming for greatness all is good.
If you wake up every morning with the determination to rise above your limitations you will eventually get it done, if the desire in your heart to overcome your struggle is stronger than your laziness then you will make things happen and find ways to make them happen.
Today is a day to focus in all the good in your life, see everything not as a stuck point but as a stepping stone.
That boy that hurt you? He made you wiser and stronger! That girlfriend who lied to you or left you? She made you open your heart to a new, more independent person and with your own thoughts.That woman who broke your heart? She gave you the gift of wisdom too!
Everything is in your life for you to outgrow your yesterday’s self. It’s for you to outplay and outwork every version of yourself who doesn’t believe dreams do come true.
EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE HAPPENS FOR YOU TO LEARN AND EVOLVE!
One day without complaining will upgrade your mentality to a new level of consciousness, one in which you see things from the perspective of the player not the victim who is being rushed and moved around like a ping pong ball.
This exercise will require you to listen more than speak, walk away from situations and conversations that don’t vibe in the same frequency, simply smile and walk away, and don’t entertain the thoughts against those who are gossiping, simply move your energy somewhere else.
The problem is that we want to be part of the pack and being part of the pack we settle, we try to fit in so desperately that we loose our spark, we allow ourselves to be dragged to parties we don’t feel like going, we jump into relationships that feel off from the beginning because we are scared of being left out, we are so scared of being alone and lonely that we don’t take time to know ourselves and we accept wherever life throws at us, we sit there, waiting, waiting, waiting, for things to fall into place when the reality is, things will only fall into place when we jump and take risks.
Today the risk is being called grumpy, crazy, bad friend, and loads of other things. People will “worry”, they will try to call you back to the pack, you simply stay in your lane and see how your thoughts drift, how you put still the blame on those around you, how you are giving your power away.
Back in Barcelona I was organising parties, I was running always up and down with people, connecting, talking, giving my time away, taking care of my friends, worrying more about others than myself, thinking that that was the way it had to be because I had always done it that way.
I used to love cooking for others, to treat them with parties in my flat, to connect people with one another, to give men what I thought they wanted and at some point my bubble crushed and I realised that I had been looking for love in all the wrong places. That nothing outside me would ever fill the loneliness that I was numbing with parties and food.
Bitching is a bad habit I had to learn to let go, I was the first one to judge a wild woman because of my beliefs and insecurities. I wasn’t capable of having a boyfriend and had engraved the pattern of men being all dogs and that’s exactly what I was getting, because that was exactly what I expected.
The moment I started changing my mindset, detoxing myself from people who were gossiping all day every day, I realised that if they were talking about others they might as well talk about me, and that I had been doing the same with others, that I had put a massive wall between me and other women, between me and my own world.
Letting go of people you have been hanging around for a while isn’t easy, you are used to the behaviours you share, you feel guilty and a bad person for putting yourself first, they will say you are selfish, that you are thinking you are someone, that those heights where you are going are unknown for them, that you have changed and you are a different person now!
That was the whole point, baby! Change or die!
Well, yes, today start embracing the fact that you will be leaving parts of your life behind, you will declutter mind, body and spirit from absolutely everything that is not helpful for your growth.
Let me repeat something that I said in the previous posts: everything we get in the outside world is a reflection of what’s going on in the inside world.
Why do some people get what they want easy and others seem to continuously struggle through life?
Because of their beliefs. The experiences we get are repeating patterns until we see the pattern and take a different action.
Let’s say you hear a gossip conversation and you move away from that but in our head you are being negative towards those who where gossiping. You will be again in a position where people are gossiping and the more you focus in how much you hate gossip the more gossiping situations you get.
I have been there, I avoid gossip, my opinion is mine to keep and if it’s not something that will be helpful to anybody I analyse why I am thinking it and move on.
And yet, sometimes people come to me with gossip, and it’s not easy to think nice of the person who is nagging in front of me.
“Criticism is very unlikely to be effective, because it will just put people on the defensive. As Carnegie says,
“Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment.”
Carnegie then presents several examples of criticism going bad, and follows it up with saying,
“Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain—and most fools do.
But it takes great character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”
He ends the chapter with the following paragraph,
“Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing that criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness.”
We waste too much time complaining of how things have gone wrong in the past, how things go wrong now and how everything is against us all day every day.
That negativity is poison!
Complaints are infused with the role of the victim who has no choice but to continue the same chain of facts that keeps them trapped in a reality that they don’t like.
Well, let me tell you that, YOU DO HAVE A CHOICE!
CHANGE OR REMAIN THE SAME!
Start with baby steps and you will see after these 30 exercises you will be hungry for more, and once you know what hungry feels you will always be looking for ways to feed that unstoppable hunger, and on your way to unbecoming all you have thought until now you were.
You will look back for a moment to your life and be amazed of the massive breakthroughs you have gone through.
And yes, it’s easier said than done. I have caught myself complaining about someone and realising later that it was me blaming someone because I had to make a decision and let go of something that was no longer serving me. So yes, we aren’t perfect and that’s why life is a school for us to evolve.
Be grateful that you can read, some aren’t so blessed!
To be continued…next Tuesday 😉