How to raise above opinion.

STOP looking for external validation!

We all want our dreams to come true and sometimes they don’t because of our fear of other people, reputation, ambition, things we think we owe to others, promises we make, contracts, basically again is our fear of failing, our thoughts are blocking us from taking action towards everything that could make us happier. 

True recognition only comes and it’s satisfying when you are following your heart.

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This chapter will help you breakthrough those barriers by analysing your thought patterns and owning your actions, changing your beliefs and although it won’t be a one day success you will start to walk in your life with more strength.

We live thinking our life should look one way or another and usually it’s determined by our surroundings, the people we hang with and the experiences we had, but the world is infinite and there are tones of experiences for you to enjoy, thousands of chances and millions of choices you can make.

What if everything you are doing is based on BS rules? 

YOU CAN HAVE EVERYTHING YOU WANT! 

IF YOU BELIEVE! 

“True hard work is more about expanding your consciousness, stretching your mind and becoming that which you already are.” 

When we are about to jump or we have a strong desire inside us to try something new, we tend to ask those around us, is this good, what do you think?

Let me tell you something, they are human just like you and they might not be the best advisors for many reasons, either they aren’t in the industry you want to work on or they gave up on their dreams sooner and they are bitter, or they simply have hidden interest in you staying where you are.

There are few rules really valuable in life and the first one would be:

BE SELFISH! BE SELFISH AF*!

No-one is going to give you anything, you have to do your work, your thing, and find the opportunities, take them, create them and follow through with them.

Stop wanting to save the world and save yourself! That’s how you truly free the world!

Do you think a champion is worrying about others? He or she plays the game, there is a team, there are rules but only one to win! And only one number one! And usually the one to win is the one breaking the rules!

I have been in this position of waiting for something or someone to give me a sign to move on and do something I really wanted, and there is no better time than now.

If we dwell in the past we miss the present moment, where the wisdom lies, where we are more alive, where we have all the tools in our hand to start over and over again.

Every day is a new opportunity and it’s easy to fall in the trap of fearing the unknown, once you start feeling comfortable in a situation I dare you to do something to shake that comfort otherwise you will get stagnant and when life hits you in the face you will be surprised instead of ready and prepared for the worst.

True self confidence is built, is built day by day doing things that scare you. I can see myself holding me back with fear of making a ridicule.

So, the other day, I am walking down the street, there is a man in suit, he is handsome and good looking and he is attracted to me, I can smell his perfume behind me and a thought crosses my mind: tell him! Let him know that you like the perfume! And what did I do? I shrank in fear, even though I didn’t know him and more possibly I would even never ever see him again, thousand fearful thoughts came to my head in a second and I froze, I could feel my body change.

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ABSURD! 

True self confidence is being aware of these moments and finding ways of putting yourself out there and challenge those beliefs. Because what’s the worst thing that could happen?

Let’s get to work!

Exercise 3:

Observe your thoughts, let’s get out of auto pilot mode, leave the headphones at home and walk in the street without the phone in your hand, be present, in the bus, the tube, wherever you are.

Those emails, texts, social media updates can wait. You aren’t going to miss a thing for taking 20 minutes of your life to be present.

Observe how you judge yourself compared to other people, how you judge others, how you take one way or another, how you go to a cafe or another, how you move around the world, what do you think when something annoys you, what do you do when someone annoys you, what does annoy you, and observe the constant chatter in your head.

Observe how you walk, where are your hands, how you position your feet, where do you look, do you let your eyes connect with other people or you avoid them?

Observe what you think of yourself when you see someone attractive and when someone attractive looks at you.

Observe and listen, listen as the observant, try not to judge, you will think you are crazy but you are not, simply observe and allow those thoughts to float.

And today do something out of the normal, break your own routine, your own rules, break them! 

Change where you go to eat, be late for a meeting, be late to work, feel that fear and do it anyway! Whatever it is that makes you feel uncertain and uncomfortable, choose whatever will give you the same amount of excitement and fear. 

Remember when you were a kid and you went with your friends to smoke or just hang around instead of attending Greek class? If you didn’t, well, you should now then, because life is to be played.

You see that inner kid inside you, fearful of the consequences? Or it’s excited to break the rules a bit and feel the freedom of choice?

FEAR IS SOMETHING WE INHERIT, SOMETHING WE LEARN, IT’S NOT REAL! IT’S A CHOICE! 

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Write down in a notebook or the notes of your phone what you thought and what you did, how did you felt and where did you feel it, what was the most horrible thing that could have happened and own it: your boss might get angry and your colleagues will be concerned, or they might not, whatever happens when they ask you what happened, just say that something came up and even though you might be scared observe that actually life goes on without you.

You know what happens here?

You start feeling what freedom is, it’s not the fact of being in the street walking without duties, freedom is the ability to make those choices that are best for us when we feel and know that they are the best for us. 

And freedom is not giving a f* about what others may think. 

This is what we will work through this exercises.

I will take you on a 30 days journey towards liberating the beast, the lion heart, the spirit, that light you have inside with 30 days setting goals and habits that will shift your life from the boring and messy routine that you think your life is to one where you are in control and you move the pieces in this game of chess.

To be continued…next Tuesday! 😉 

If you’d like to find out more about my programmes and how can I help you achieve the success you deserve, if you want to see what’s been holding you back all this time email me to iammissfirestar@gmail.com and let’s talk so that I can give you 30minutes of my time, some advice and a plan to move forward. 

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